Twin Flames – Understanding the True Purpose and the Energetic Dynamics

Remark: This article contains a lot of information, which is valid for people in their ascension process, who are not in a Twin Flame connection just the same. By no means this article intends to prefer Twin Flames over any other type of soul connection. It is written with the Twin Flame focus to assist people going through this very challenging process, and to create a better understanding of what is happening. If you are in a twin flame dynamic, all this information might be overwhelming first. Let it settle in and feel into you and reread it. In many cases, you will come back to this article later again. We have to learn and take in a lot in a short time to be prepared to be a wayshower, leading by inspiration, but also have to be patient with ourselves while going through this process.

You meet this person, look them into the eyes and are sucked in like by a tractor beam. The magnetic feeling is so intense – nothing you have ever experienced before. And you know: This is what I have been searching, what I have been waiting for my whole life. Now I am going to live happily ever after. I have found the person that makes me whole, the one that completes me. Right?

Nope! The Twin Flame journey is not about romance in the first place, and we have to learn that the hard way. Especially in the beginning, when the just described bubble love phase ends abruptly. Our egos kick back in when we return into 3D reality and a painful push and pull becomes the new normal, in most cases ending in a painful separation. It does not really help to have the other person in our mind 24/7. We feel like going insane with all the fears, worries, doubts and symptoms showing up, and we are asking ourselves: “What is it that I have gotten into here and why can I not let go of this?”

There have been many articles written about the twin flame phenomenon, the process and the stages we are going through, so no need to repeat this here. One thing that is not written much about although it is so important to understand, is the purpose and especially the energetic dynamics between twin flames and how they work. Understanding those two and learning the language of energy will help immensely to move forward in this journey.

Why are Twin Flames here?

We often mistake the twin flame connection as a romantic experience, because the feelings are so intense. It is nothing we have ever experienced before, yet our ego-mind tries to relate it to something we know: Having fallen madly in love. That is not it.
Being a couple can be the icing on the cake at a later stage. But before we can have that, there is much work to do. The quicker we let go of this idea for now, the faster we move forward. The bubble love phase, these beautiful and intense connection where we get lost in space and time, and we just run on these amazing vibes we feel becomes our personal bait, the carrot in front of our nose pulling us forward. It is kind of like the Universe is saying: “Here is what you can have, get a little taste of paradise on earth. This is how living in the fifth dimension feels like. But now: Back into 3D with you and get to work.” It seems to be the cruelest thing to us to lose what we wanted and love most. We are left alone, we feel abandoned, unwanted and completely confused and devastated. We start chasing the other person or running away. We are searching for answers, stumble upon the first articles on twin flames and learn that this is different from what we have experienced before. We are kicked into the spiritual world, and we awaken on speed to a new reality. It is a roller coaster ride we have never experienced before and we just want it to end. All we want is to be with that person.

We just don’t know how, because our head is trying to find solutions on a 3D/ego/mind level within the learned behavioural patterns and templates. There is one thing guaranteed though: We will never find our answers from a 3D/ego-mind perspective. Everything we had learned and taken on from the 3D matrix programming through societal conventions, education, school, church, the news, the governments, marketing etc. does not apply to this experience. Even more than that: The twin flame journey forces us to drop all of it. Only then a reunion becomes possible. We will explore further why this is the case.

Twin Flames are leaders – in a spiritual sense, not in a status/ego sense. It is a leadership by inspiration, showing a way of life that is completely different to the old paradigm of 3D.  We are leaving the breadcrumbs for people to start their own quest back to their true authentic self and essence. 

To understand what that really means and why we are feeling pushed to transform and change so much, we have to take a closer look into the true purpose of twin flames:

Purpose Number 1: Building and strengthening the New Earth Energetic Grid

Twin Flames go on a search when they are going through the painful experience of the push and pull and separation phase. This phase has not only the purpose to heal (remember our wholeness) the individuals, it also serves to connect with other twins all over the world to exchange on experiences, assisting and supporting each other in the process, and in their different missions (they are fun, not a burden!). We are finding our tribe and are cooperating and co-creating with each other. Twins and other wayshowers, gatekeepers and gridkeepers are strategically positioned all over the planet to hold, anchor, and build important locations / gates to support the distribution of the new energy all over earth. Some will be positioned permanently in one spot, building new community models, new ways of autark living, new ways of education, new ways of economy etc., while others are travelers – always ready to follow the next calling into the next region where light and love is needed.

Purpose Number 2: Supporting Ascension of the Planet and Humanity

Twin Flames have incarnated at this crucial time on earth to assist the planet’s and humanity’s ascension. They are walking side by side with other ascended beings (There are tons of labels for them: star seeds, earth angels, lightworkers, gridworkers, gatekeepers, etc…) to assist raising the planet’s and humanity’s frequency. Twins, already before meeting the partner, carry a very high frequency code within, which gets activated after the first encounter in the physical, when the energies that have been separated for so long, reconnect. It is an explosion of pure unconditional love, a nuclear reaction. That is why it feels so unbelievably fantastic. This high vibe has nothing to do with romance, the energy supports and amplifies the embodiment of the higher dimensional frequencies, and prepares the ground to build a new earth. The more the frequency is established, the more the collective is forced to shift, too. We are here to support this transmutation by transforming low frequencies into high frequencies to free the planet from its 3D illusions and pain. Each twin and awakening being that is doing the inner transformation is adding to the quantum field of unconditional love, which accelerates the ascension of the planet and everything and everyone on it. Vice versa, we also ground the higher dimensional blueprints to manifest as new earth onto the planet.

Purpose Number 3: Healing the Family Lineage and the Collective

Twin flames often incarnate into very dysfunctional families with a large imbalance of masculine and feminine energies. It can be either very abusive or very overprotected. Twin flames chose to experience living in an imbalance to understand how this feels like, as it is needed to assist others to ascend later on. When twins awaken and understand their true purpose and start healing (remembering their wholeness), this has an effect on the whole family lineage. Twins shift the energetic field and timeline for the whole genetic past. In the embodiment phase, they are also releasing everything that is still stored in the physical cells (cellular memory) and clear it so that the children incarnating through this lineage in the future will be born into the high vibes of 5D and beyond, and onto New Earth directly. There will be no karma left. The same counts for healing collective pain. When twins have healed enough themselves and have gotten used to the transmutation process of energy, which happens through our heart centers, they will automatically participate more and more in transmuting energy for the planet.  This will feel awkward in the beginning, as we suddenly experience emotions from out of nowhere, nevertheless – they just run through us and we do not engage in them – as we have no resonance to the drama of the old world anymore. 

Purpose Number 4: Establishing new Relationship and Family Templates

Twins are here to build inspiring showcases to the world to show how life can be very different from what was known before. We offer completely new perspectives that have nothing to do with the old, as it is based on a new source code of oneness, not on duality/separation. Life on New Earth is based on authenticity, freedom and self-love for the individual, and oneness, compassion, and unconditional sharing within the community. All of this becomes possible, when human ego has been transformed into a free spirit and the hearts have been fully opened to unconditional love. This will lead to a complete absence of fear. On New Earth, feminine and masculine energies are in complete balance. And it starts within us. The feminine, the creative will prepare the fertile ground from the heart and deliver the possibilities and ideas, while the masculine part as the creator will focus, set clear intentions and implement. Twins are first to reach this balance within themselves, and then support spreading this via ripple effect and the connection to twins all over the planet. Twins are anchoring the new relationship and family templates, free from co-dependencies, duties, contracts, compromise. In a world without fear and insecurity, where everyone is valued for what they are, unconditional loving and living will be the new normal.

Purpose Number 5: Establishing new Societal Templates

Closely related to the relationship and family templates are general societal templates for the fifth dimension. Also these will be completely based on authenticity, compassion, freedom of the individual, healthy interdependency, oneness, and unconditional sharing. Honesty will be self-evident. Today, when you ask people to not tell a lie for one day, most would not be able to do so, because our ego uses lies as a means of self-defense. This will be a thing of the past. We will show a new way of living in harmony. Communities that care for each other out but honor and respect the individual aspects of each and everyone. The same counts for economy. Imagine a world without ego and honoring our natural form of being in complete balance. We would not need fashion, fancy cars, fancy watches, make up, cosmetics, shampoo, deodorant etc. Test it yourself and walk down a shopping street and count the shops you would truly need on New Earth and which ones would drop away. Amazing, huh? We won’t even need money anymore when everyone does what they love and shares it with the whole organism. Another thing of the past will be governments and democracy. As each and everyone is going to return to full auto-responsibility, and back to following natural impulses and flow – there will be no need for someone taking control and take over responsibility for the collective. There will be nothing to fight or discuss about, as everyone is happy and appreciated for who they are and what they contribute. 

Now that we have learned what the purpose of twin flames is, we know what we are being prepared for. We have to dive a bit further into the Twin Flame dynamics and process to understand what is happening for us and why this process is so challenging and painful in the beginning. And – it is very important to understand how these dynamics work from an energetic point of view so that we can use it to move forward quickly and come into a state of inner peace and balance.

Insight Number 1 – Your Twin is You

This is what many struggle with to understand when still in 3D thought and believe patterns. We slip into a victim role, we blame, we judge, we go into the “he said – she said” game and we are focused on the other person, only seeing their alleged fears and problems they need to solve. Well, scratch that. The sooner, the better. Of course, it is your choice. If you enjoy the 3D templates and the push and pull dynamics and the running and chasing game, then stick with it. There is only one guarantee: A permanent reunion with your twin will not be possible that way, and you will remain in an infinite loop of despair, longing and pain. 

We have to understand, that our twin is us. We are one energy field in two bodies, we share the same energetic signature like puzzle pieces clicking into each other. So what we blame or judge him or her for, we blame ourselves for. They are our ultimate mirror and they give us exactly what we need for our own healing and growth. That is not always what our ego wants… So when you are blaming them for ignoring you, why are you ignoring yourself? When you complain about them not being honest about their feelings, where are you not honest yourself? This by the way prepares us to see the much bigger picture of oneness. It is not just the twin that we are one with – we are one with everything and everyone in this universe, and as we keep on evolving, we see more and more of this bigger truth. 

Insight Number 2 – It is all about You

Closely related to that is that we have to learn that it is always about us. And when we have understood that we are one it makes sense, right? If we heal us, we heal both parts. Nothing happens to us, everything happens for us. 

There is no me or him/her. There is only us. And the faster we focus on ourselves, on our own issues, our own healing, the quicker we will raise the frequency for us, our twin and humanity and feel much more balanced and whole. Working with our inner child, our ego and learning the language of energy in order to transmute fear frequencies into love frequencies through gratitude and forgiveness are three key aspects. This process pushes us to become our true divine self and drop everything that is not authentic about us. It is triggering us until we have pealed off every conditioned layer and belief, and have found back to self-love. A state of being without any self-doubt, hurt, insecurities or other fears.

Our ego loves to step in here and say – why do I have to do all the work and the other part is not taking any effort? Well, read the next insight to get a clearer perspective.

Insight Number 3 – the Feminine is in the Lead

Once we have understood this, the second part to integrate into our awareness are the traits of the feminine and the masculine energies. The feminine energy is the creative energy. She creates with her intuition, and her heart. She is preparing the energy field and is setting a certain frequency. Then, the masculine energy, the creator energy, can follow with focus and commitment and manifest. It can never be the other way around. So if you are the more feminine part in the connection (carrying a bigger portion of feminine energy, which is independent from gender), you have to really take that in. If you are waiting for your twin to finally heal and get it – you will wait until the cows come home. This will never happen, as s/he will simply follow your energy. If your intention in the energetic field is waiting or acting out of fear – s/he will do the same. If you set the intention to move forward, change things, step into your mission, drop fears and parts that are not authentic about you, follow your true hearts desires, s/he will do the same. And you do not have to talk to him or her in the physical about this at all. As you are connected energetically through your heart centers, you will inspire him or her energetically. The more you find your inner reunion, the less you will still need/pull the energy from him or her. That also means, that you make less and less energy available to him to “suck” from. As the more feminine part, we shift and transmute our fear/trauma patterns first, and then the masculine can follow. The more feminine part prepares the fertile ground, creates the circumstances energetically to pave the way for manifestation. Always. Understand that the more masculine part needs you to do your job so that they can do theirs. A reunion becomes only possible when both have done their job. 

Insight Number 4 – Silence is Golden

A lot of confusion always comes up about the forced separation for twin flames. What we have to understand is, that this separation is guided by our soul and has its purpose. Our soul wants us to focus on ourselves and our own issues and healing. The transformation happens a lot quicker if we are not distracted by the presence of our partner, and are permanently in a situation where we pull energy from each other. That is co-dependency, and exactly what we are meant to overcome. Moreover, we have to understand, that our body is not ready to be able to stand these intense high frequencies we experienced in the bubble love phase for long, as we still carry a lot of old baggage and low fear frequencies. The friction between those two frequencies is too strong. Being with our twin would mean that we would simply burn out and our system would collapse.  Therefore: Recognize the gift of silence for your ultimate good, and use this time to focus on your own work instead of wasting energy into chasing, and running away from your own lessons and job this way.

Insight Number 5 – Our Inner Child is a Key Holder

When we started our journey on earth, it did not take long until we were completely caught up in the 3D game, and programmed with false belief systems and templates. We took for granted what we learned. Everything was based on scarcity and competition. Being not good enough and having to be better, jump higher, perform more… that was our reality. We did not question that maybe what schools, churches, governments, the industries, etc. taught us was not so true after all.

So while growing up in our childhood, we were wounded and hurt because all of this programming was not in line with our true essence. Our fears and traumas that we experience today stem from that time. When we face a certain situation our system recalls the memory of the past and reacts with the same protective strategy we came up with as a child. That results in anger attacks, crying, manipulating etc. We end up in the same mess again and again until we realize that we have to empower our inner child to get rid of the pattern. And no one is better in triggering our inner child than our twin so that we recognize it and heal it. The inner child, when still in sabotage mode, is the nurturer of the ego, giving it the fear patterns it needs to keep us in fear. When we make our inner child our best friend and get it to trust us completely, the ego cannot get any energy and is forced to transform into a higher frequency. Fear patterns are reprogrammed into love patterns this way. 

Insight Number 6 – Acting out Emotions is good!

Another big distorted programming of the 3D Matrix is that acting out emotions is inappropriate. Crying, screaming, shaking, but also loud laughing or singing in public is simply inadequate in this ego-based society. What we have to understand is that acting out emotions is a good thing! It is a natural reflex that we have for a reason. It is like energetic puking. Children naturally use that reflex. If they have an energy in their system that does not belong there, they scream, they cry or shake to release it right away. And everything is cool again a couple of minutes later. Until we teach them that it is not okay to behave that way. So we keep all this toxic energy in our system and our emotional body gets an overload up to a point that can lead to serious depression. It starts passing on dense energies into the physical body, which stores it. At some point, it will manifest as muscle pains, inflammations first, and can lead to serious illnesses such as cancer, heart attacks, strokes etc.

So instead of blaming ourselves when we feel like crying or screaming, we need to turn it around and learn that we have to be thankful for the possibility to release it. We learn to allow emotions constructively, without going into the drama.
Compare it with a fish poisoning. Your stomach reacts with a natural reflex to throw up. If you fight that reflex and keep the food in your stomach, you can get very sick and even die. Do yourself a huge favour and instead of blaming yourself, enjoy emotional releases with a big “Thanks that I can let that go now for good”. That again transmutes the energy to a high frequency immediately.

Insight Number 7 – Start your Mission now

Don’t wait until your twin is ready to be with you to start your mission you came here for. That means to discover your essence, and do what you love! You are supposed to reach a state of wholeness individually. The Universe requires transformation and change, not waiting until you are both ready. You are here with specific gifts and tasks. Explore your childhood and personality to find out what they are and who you truly are and start sharing your talents with the world to inspire others. It does not have to be big, just by putting yourself out there, you are already causing a ripple effect. Redirecting energies into something useful helps again to transmute energies to high frequencies of love and compassion. Move forward with your life as if reunion was not happening and you are happy and whole on your own, but know in your heart that your twin will join once all energy blockages between the two of you are cleared. And remember: Your mission is fun, because you do what makes you thrive. As soon as it feels heavy and not in the flow, you know you are not in the frequency you want to be in. 

Insight Number 8– We are Transformers

When we have learned to release emotions with gratitude, we have had our first lesson in alchemy. Because that is how transmutation of low frequencies into high frequencies works. Through gratitude and forgiveness instead of blame and judgement, we raise the vibration quickly. This requires to take a different perspective and see the benefit in every situation: What does it teach me, what do I recognize about myself and for my own growth? Who did I meet that is important now to me that I would not have met?… When we take a 5D view on things, we recognize the perfection and purpose in all our experiences and encounters. By learning the language of energy, understanding the universal laws and the process of creation, we recognize that we always have the steering wheel and we can choose if we want to go down the road of fear or drive up the highway of love.

Once we have learned this transmutation on a micro level, we will automatically start participating in doing this on a larger level for the planet. Although it might feel awkward in the beginning, and can bring you some quite intense heart burns, it becomes something so normal that you will not even realize anymore when you are doing it. You become a walking purifier. We are starting to understand, that we are part of a larger organism. Maybe now you can feel with liver cells and what they have to go through when they have to process all the toxic alcohol after heavy drinking and cleanse the physical body from it 🙂 

Apart from that, we also transmute and translate the other way around. We are anchoring the high frequencies that are available in the higher dimensions, by transforming them into a frequency where we can keep them in the physical realm. 

So please be aware, the battle between darkness and light is not an open war as we would imagine it to be. It is a battle that is taking place within each and every one of us  and it is our choice what we support with our energy: Choose wisely. Choose love. 

Insight Number 9 – We had to go through 3D School

Often we ask ourselves – why do I have to go through all this pain? As already mentioned, many twins chose very dysfunctional families to incarnate into on purpose. Why? Besides the experience of the imbalance between masculine and feminine energies, an important reason for that is to fully understand the 3D programming and to experience for ourselves how duality feels and how it works. We had to understand that whole system in order to be able to hack it, infect it and reprogram it with our light and love. Only that way, we are able to develop a compassion for those that are going through the same experience, and we can through their ego behavior straight into their heart and essence, to hold the space for them on their individual journey. 

Insight Number 10 – Your old Life is supposed to be destroyed


That is another tough one to understand. How often do we hear from twins: “My life was pretty stable and perfect until I met him/her and actually I was happy”.

Hm… sorry…. But is that really true? Why could someone then have such an impact on you, and you are ready in an instant to let your old life go? The twin flame journey is shaking you up for a purpose and challenges you to the deepest level. It forces you to find back to your unique essence, to become your most authentic self. This leads you into dropping everything that is not authentic about you and is not resonating with your inner truth. So everything you only did to please other people or fulfil others expectations will show up painfully until you let it go. Everything you did to hide behind a mask is blowing up into your face. Most twins experience huge losses, such as money, your home, people. The more you fight this process, the harder it will get. We are tested if we trust the universal flow, despite dire circumstances, and whether we are attached to anything or anyone. We are challenged to drop all co-dependencies, contracts, etc. to reach complete freedom. We are driven to let go of the programmed beliefs and templates we took on and leave the 3D Matrix for good. There is no place on New Earth for these old energies and we realize we do not need any of it when we are happy and whole. In short: We are guided to find self-love to share it with our community. As we are all aspects of Source, self-love is the closest we can get to God, because we are God in form. 

Insight Number 11 – Reunion is only possible on a very High Frequency Level

Lovers in front of the moon

Once we have found self-love and feel completely connected to source and we have let go of all distorted programming, fears, trauma, inauthentic behavior etc., we have raised our frequency back to our natural frequency. Our original twin vibe. That is pure bliss and compassion. Pure Divine love. When we have reached that state, we have ascended. We are now happy and whole by ourselves. We do not need anyone else to be happy, but we carry so much love for us and thus for God, that all we want to do is share it with everyone. We see through all the illusions. Duality dissolves and we see the good and Divine perfection in everything. We are completely free and have detached from the Matrix and have awakened to the real reality. We are enjoying life and love to share and inspire, without expecting anything from anyone. When we scream and cry it feels just as good as when we laugh, dance and sing. We have recognized what a great gift the twin flame journey is and are deeply grateful for everything it has brought to us. We live with ease,  we have completely surrendered, we trust the universal flow and we have let go of the expectation that reunion has to happen in this lifetime, as time and death loses its meaning, too.

And – that is exactly the moment when the door possibly opens and – when you least expect it, your twin is there, ready to join the dance. 

The texts I share are always based on my own intuition and/or on experiences of clients, friends and my own. I do not claim what I share to be the ultimate truth. I encourage everyone to only take what resonates to find your own truth and wisdom. As this is universal wisdom, I do not claim any copyright. Please feel free to share this content as long as you keep its message complete so that the meaning does not get twisted. Thank you. Vera

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    1. I am confused about the release of emotion. I work in an elementary school with a difficult population where students release their emotion, but they actually hurt other children. And even if they are not hurting others with their release of emotion, they are disruptive to the learning process. Am I suppose to accept that this is okay and natural?

      1. I understand what you’re saying! Only a teacher could appreciate this. The overloaded curriculum and class sizes that teachers operate with do not allow nor accommodate children to express themselves to this degree. What’s the answer? Ideally, much smaller class sizes, a more streamlined curriculum and assessment that reflects the whole of the child including emotional intelligence and resilience

        1. Hi both, I think this kind of “emotion release” is not meant here. Rather, the kind, where you are in huge emotional pain and cry for days to let it out, instead of keeping it all in and pretending to be happy.

          In schools, yes, students should probably be taught to be patient and kind towards one another and release the emotion at home, in the nature, or elsewhere.

          1. I have to disagree, sorry. The kids do need to release their emotions right at the time when the situation that requires a release is happening. Be it school, day care or whatever. Because if release doesn’t happen at that moment, then it gets stored in their bodies. Another thing is that the society is not ready for those emotions and that’s exactly what Vera said about 3d programming. Schools need to change. Curriculum must include emotional intelligence classes, meditations and such. This old stuff doesn’t work anymore. A lot of lightworkers homeschool their kids for that reason and I’m going to do that too.

        2. There is a new curriculum I am teaching that is becoming widely spread on empathy and how to properly interact with each other on a date I say it, a higher level to understand each other instead if purposely or accidentally being hurtful to another. it is An excellent curriculum for adults and children to know.

    2. I am greatful I was led to this page. Another day feeling better than I did yesterday.
      I never imagined that the pain I have suffered could create this love I am experiencing right now. To be chosen to go on this journey makes everyday count.
      My heart is filled with more love day by day.
      Thankyou again
      Blessings to all that are on the same journey in this life.

    3. Split a PICE of wood, I am there.

      Turn a Stone, you will Find me.
      Powerful words I understand them now. Thank you Alllove Alli Child of our amazing Universe xxx

    4. thank you. thank you. thank you. you have expressed everything I feel in my heart, and which I know to be true. nothing on twin flames has helped me as much as this.

  1. Thank you Vera for this article which resonates deeply within me.

    I also love your little film and your explanation about the impact on all of us if we raise our energyfield.

    With Love and Light

    your Brigitte

  2. Thank you! This is a beautiful confirmation of my life experiences. My twin and I have connected, but not yet face to face. Only a month or so more! Namaste.

  3. I love it when I read something that truly sounds authentic in source. Your articles have been an inspiration to truth and knowledge. Keep doing such a wonderful job. Namaste ~Jen

  4. Thank you so much for this. Just yesterday, I decided to let go of the pushing/pulling/running/chasing phenomenon, and told myself that I would instead focus that energy on other twin souls, and the universe in general. I always knew subconsciously of how we affect others, but to read it in print with the tiny details, always helps to do it all better. Much love to you. Thanks again.

  5. This is the most thorough and accurate explanation of the twin flame dynamic that I’ve ever read. It is absolutely amazing and much appreciated!! Thank you!! 🙂

    1. Everything in this article is so true! I have come to this understanding through my own experience over the past 18 months of having met my twin. The pain has been incredible but out of that I have grown so much. My twin and I am in seperation in 3d but always together in 5 d. I love him so much but I know that the key is self love and healing. Thank you so much for this article.

  6. Thank you beloved. I’m not insane. Which is growing to know. Blessed be always. Namaste

  7. Very useful and i think i read this at the right time i needed.

    Thanks from the bottom of my heart.

  8. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
    Now I have no doubts anymore.
    Much love to you. Namasté ✨

      1. Thankyou again Vera for your insight . The premise of this blog is almost exactly what I had just messaged to my other half again In separation . It is as if I was meant to read this to confirm that I was correct in thud process . No more fear , but while separate working on my self and inner child . Really enjoying the process without the pain and fear anymore . I totally resonate with all you have said . Live and light to you ❤️

  9. Vera, this a very comprehensive article. So grateful that you received the information that you have give us. It further reinforces that I am on the right track. Thank you for your time and energy!!!!!!

    1. Thank you Kristene! I am very happy to hear the things coming through me are of support. Much love and light to you! X

  10. Thank u. Every step is fact & in details. It is not easy to separate from our twin. Literally contacted so many people just to make sense. more than a year emotionally, physically became I’ll. Rough roller coaster.. ..I tried my best with other twin.
    Now I let go himself. May God bless him and his Karmic partner.

    1. 2 B lead here , was not a mistake…I felt constant loneliness and pain while going through the run,chase phase . I saw Very clearly through your msg all that truly matters is Grace n love. No longer waiting for a physical reunion we are 1 without any need to reunite.We are eternally one .Namasté

  11. Thank you so much. I have been on this journey with my twin now for almost eight years. I have been searching for ‘enlightenment’ to help me deal with all of these dynamics. I only just read a few articles last night and found yours today. I feel bliss in now knowing WHY I am here in this with my twin. Why there is a struggle with him and how to get past it. I feel peace. Finally. There was no question as to IF, just how to be. No words can express my gratitude. Thank you. Namaste.

  12. Dear Vera, thank you so much for such a thorough explanation of this process. I can say, it is true, definitely. However, some points I wanted to refine a bit. I think a twin is not you exactly – if you think this way, you will only end up blaming yourself for everything that is happening or has happened. I would say, a twin is your reflection in the mirror. If you lift your right hand, s/he lifts the left hand. If s/he does something, you should not look for an explanation for her/his reaction within yourself. You should monitor your own reaction and find a solution to it. If s/he is hurting you, why is his/her actions causing you pain? When you find and heal the pain, it will disappear. THIS is what the twin is helping you with, to heal and see YOU.

    If you think the twin is doing the same thing as you, then the chasing / running phenomenon would not happen. Both would chase each other, or run from each other. But it is truly the yin-yang in action.

    And finally, there is no “wrong choice”. All the chasing / running is also there for a reason. Therefore, I would not say to anybody “stop it” – because as long as you need to do it, you will need to do it. It is there for a purpose. It will do exactly that what I stated above. Your twin is helping you to heal yourself. It is a process of love, more than anything!


    1. A twin is the other half of your soul. How do I know this? I’ve seen when me and my twin split before we became incarnated. I’m not chasing my twin I actually just push her away because we don’t resonate right now and I’m the one taking the lead in fixing myself. We have spent 100 to 800 lives incarnated together. I could list all of my abilities but that doesn’t really serve a purpose in this post. I actually push her away she wanted back in. The yin-yang concept is interesting in a person but in the general context of the world and the universe. Everything transmutes back to light. If you look at the original yin-yang symbol. There is a circle in the middle that Circle represents God which is light. From that comes light and darkness but there is true Darkness. I help people get rid of attachments and demons, as a divine Trance channel, and warrior. I’ve never seen a light being become transmuted Into Darkness. I have seen plenty of Darkness become transmuted back into the light of God.

        1. I hope you are not lying to yourself. To push someone away, you must toughen yourself. How can you then be in the light and lead? I, for long, thought to be the masculine. Now, finally, I recognize myself – and know what to do.

          All souls are born in light. All children are filled with light. But as they live their lives further, they need to make choices. Some make choices that bring them farther from their true selves. These choices however are intended – you can only go as far from yourself as is possible, but some day you will need to return to yourself.

    2. Anna, you are Right on the mark!! I too am going through this spiritual journey and trying to find answers, why it is happening to me. I have found my answers Before reading this. I just needed confirmation. Everything Vera has mentioned is correct! Well, except about what you said about the Yin/Yang correlation. It’s so very True!! I have been physically, emotionally and spiritually with my Twin Flame!!! It is frightening, exciting and loving at the same time! It is Unbelievable that this even exist let alone having to experience this phenomenon is truly Devine Guidence. I am grateful for this Gift from God!

      1. Dear Marissa, very happy to hear, I feel the same way! I so love this channeling by Vera, it’s so on the mark!

        I have noticed, even when you are conscious, the energies are so strong and overwhelming, it’s challenging to keep in mind it’s all about finding your true self. The need for connecting with your twin is only there for you to find your self, and it will happen as you relax into the process. Keeping this in mind, will lead you to the light! There are no wrong choices! Lots of love and light to your path <3

    3. I agree Anna! For me it took more than 5 years… and it was too late until I understand what was going on… we are separated with his death… actually I let him go a few months of his death (not because of he was sick but due to my ego as I sensed that he was seeing also others)… after a year I am appreciating for this journey instead of blaming and being angry… I am still working on my growth but it is a painful process… who knows if we ever meet in another life again..

      Thank you Vera making it so clear to me so that I choose love and gratitude

  13. Thank You for You Service.
    May True Love Abound & Abide in Us All.
    And so it is.

  14. What a wonderful and well done article..thanks for helping me understand everything…stay bless and continue the love

  15. Such a great article & very helpful!!! Loved your video explaining energy transformation too! Helps to make it very understandable! Thank you!

  16. This is one of the most helpful explanations of the twin flame dynamic/ purpose and one of the only articles that I have read that gives helpful steps on what we can do during the separation. I intuitively have known that the feminine energy needs to “do something” first but I have not been able to figure out what or why exactly. This has been tremendously valuable to me. Thank you so much for sharing.

  17. Thank you so much for taking the time to write this this article. I met my twin flame at work two years ago. I have struggled with our our relationship because I didn’t understand it. I didn’t know we were twin flames or even what twin flames were this morning. I went on an internet search to figure it out.

    Every line you wrote resonates with me and the the experiences my twin flame and I are having. I have felt the the universe guiding us in our plans. Understanding the connection gives me a great deal of comfort, even even knowing the road will be long and bumpy. Thank you.

  18. I was so confused with what was happening to me. I thought I was going crazy and insane. I agree twin flame wasn’t romantic or sweet like what they make it out to be. It’s frustrating, tiring and scary, but wow is it eye opening!!

    But after reading this I know what to do now. I dont know if my twin flame knows exactly what is happening. His belief and lifestyle is literally the opposite of mine but i pray he finds peace with himself and seeks answers that will help and guide him.. thank you so much for making this so clear.

    1. It is truly out of this World! Unbelievable but oh so enlightened by that the fact that I always knew I had a True Purpose here on Earth.

  19. The best article written about the experience that we have found to date! Thank you so much for this insight.

  20. Thank you, Vera for your insight. This article confirms a lot of what I intuitively knew about my experience and illuminates many of the other pieces of my experience I didn’t understand. Thank you for being courageous and following your calling to help the rest of us on our own journeys. Namaste.

  21. I happened upon this article while searching for artwork for a poem I wrote over a year ago and put out in the cyber world. So, why was I looking for artwork for an old poem already completed with complimentary art? Because the story will not end. Ever. It has never happened before, but it is absolutely true…the colors or energy or whatever, were there for ME to see, feel, or imagine…and they affected me and changed me, destructed me and enlightened me without an identifiable pattern. Your article is the first I’ve ever learned of these “dimensional” life stages. One thing for certain, the runner and chaser theory are interesting. And I have been cleaning my house of negativity; mother, father, sister, even grown children, which is crushing for me, and quite frankly I don’t even really know the woman who is doing it as myself. Maybe someone can identify and get relief from something I’ve written if they’re embarking on a similar journey. My poems are on tumblr, facebook, pinterest, twitter-Amy Baldwin West (or Rivershoes) Thanks for the article.

  22. This is an incredible article…so much truth… Understanding what twin flames are really all about, “the mirror”, makes much more sense than the belief that everything is magical and perfect when we connect with our twin. Thank You!

  23. What if your twin flame is disencarnate, I mean a spirit? I don’t know if that’s what’s going on for me, but it was heaven on earth for a bit, followed by separatio, sorrow, pain, suffering, drama. It is making me basically deal with stuff I wasn’t dealing with, once I got over the depression. In that way, it sounds like the way you describe twin flames. I’m expanding now, but still rather resentful. Sigh. It’s been so difficult to experience ecstasy followed by abandonment, and worse, not being able to get over it even after years.

  24. Thank you for the guidance. The fact I’m not alone is reassuring and comforting. I so needed this now.

  25. Your text resonated so much with me that I had a smile on my face while reading it. You have put into words things that happened and are happening to me and thank you so much is kinda what I want to say by making this comment. I love you.

  26. Thank you so much you that’s exactly what I needed! I met my twin last April, but when our story was right about to start – in October- he had to leave. Now we’re in touch but he seems to be the runner, so I kinda let him be. Can separation occur before the relationship gets started? I thought it came after the so called honeymoon phase.. I know there are no rules but all the experiences I’ve read about tell this.. thanks again. Love.

  27. Thank you very much Vera. You have helped me very much. Now I see clearly what is happening around me and the twin flames connection is so true.

  28. Woowwww Ive got the answer to most of my questions after three years of running after my twinflame. Thank you so much for all the information

  29. There is no twin flame “mission” on earth; twin flames are not divinely ordained individuals chosen to guide this planet as it ascends. Twin flames agreed to the “laws” of this creation, which means a dualistic split into opposites. Everything on this planet is the result of such splitting/fractaling – good/bad, light/dark, male/female. In order to even be here, there would have had to be some kind of agreement before to the separation. For both halves of a twin flame “couple” to even be on the planet at the same time, let alone MEET, is so remote, it’s practically an abstraction to the human mind. On the flipside, defying the in-built, natural boundaries of this 3d physical creation where one person actually identified their twin flame counterpart would cause such chaos to one or both people (assuming both are alive) it would basically bring an end to any earthbound mission either one had.

    Bottom line: twin flames are not some earthly, romantic love story. It is not a relationship principle mimicking any particular dynamic (lovers/spouses, parent-child, sibling-sibling, etc.) because it was not intended for this realm, it is a creation principle from source. Anybody claiming to be with their twin flame is mistaken.

  30. Okay I am absolutely sure I am a Twin flame. I always wanted to change the world for the better that was a big dream of mine. But now I am just losing battles after battles and I am losing faith … So how should I acomplish this seriously? I mean sure I do it if noone else will, but my life is a mess. I couldn’t even fix my own life so how could fix it for others?

    1. Hi there, Please don’t give up. Just keep going, even if your faith fails you! It WILL eventually turn for the better. Find fun and goodness where you can meanwhile, to survive. I have gone through what you’re describing, and lost faith, so many times. Now, I see, things are better. Everything has a meaning. <3

      1. Hello, I enjoy everyone of these articles and all of the information that I’m absorbing in massive amounts from various places but this site is one of my favorites because the resignation to what is being taught is absolute. Thank you, you are just what I needed to find and exactly what I needed to hear at precisely at the right time. I met my twin flame May 2017, actually a few times quite briefly a few months before we spent the last year and a half together. At first we were inseparable and then more and more distance grew between us. We lived together for this entire time off and on, I think the longest apart was a month, month and a half and then back together. I’ve always been very in tuned with my psychic vibrations, empath, Pisces. Him not so much, ego driven, hard headed, Aries. I didn’t realize exactly who he was and what was going with me until a week before he left and turned into the runner. I told him what I thought he was and who he was to me and how now I finally realizing why it was I moved to town where I had no family and knew no one to live by myself with 2 small autistic children, it was to find him and in return ultimately find myself. I don’t think he knew how to handle that and a week later he was gone, I had been ghosted and still am. Which brings to my question. I haven’t heard or seen him in almost 3 months even though we are in close proximity to one another, less than 20 miles. Recently I texted him and was going to meet at a neutral place to give him the rest of his belongings. Here is where it gets kinda of strange, he’s texting me and telling me where he is and I’m texting back and telling him I’m at the gas station he is parked at the pump. He says he is also parked at the pump, and still I’m asking where I don’t see you, and he is saying the same, I don’t see you either. He references a blue suv parked at the middle pump, says he’s on the other side of that suv, I text him I’m on the other side of that blue suv. I still didn’t see him or couldn’t see him. I swear there was no other car on opposite side of that suv, to which I was then accused of wasting his time and playing games. Is it possible that we are no longer on the same frequency level and now not visible to one another? Until he can accept he has a higher calling or I can completely heal myself and in return heal him as well we are no longer able to see and distract one another from our true purpose here? Has this ever been heard before or happened to anyone else?

  31. Thank you Vera for posting this article. It is one of the few that I’ve found that presents the “twin flame” (I use that term loosely) experience in a down-to-earth and sensible manner. It also helps me to more clearly understand this experience that I’m going through. This is the fifth year for me and I’ve also found that following astrology has also helped tremendously to understand the planetary energies that I’m being influenced by. So things are much, much clearer now and it’s true, it’s really all about my growth and understanding that my Soul is taking me on this journey into who/what I really am. It’s been an adventure, albeit a bit scary at times. Along with some very odd and incredible things happening with this other person, the so-called Twin. I guess I find that term too limiting, I feel as if something else is going on here in the spiritual realms; however the term “twin flame” comes closest to it. To me it’s more of a “joined souls” or “two souls on a journey” or “soul contract” type of relationship. And I may even change that opinion depending on what happens! Love and light to everyone on their Soul journey!

  32. This is so beautiful. My twin and i could totally relate!
    I love this article. Thank you for having the time to share this with us.
    Much love

  33. This is just how I see my life the last 5 years.
    Next to my flame you explenation about the 5d world I agree. Even the rollercoaster and the things I lose. Its strange but it feels good to lose. My heart getting warm at that. My flame her name starts with the letter D; every whole day I see the D at licenseplates but also the numbers 3 6 and my lucky 9. When I recornise my prevous life I get messages 22:22 for 6 times and she warms my heart. I known I can speak to her over a private 5d channel. No 3d words; but 5d feelings. My life is very different compaird with others. For me, this is not believing. I realy known this is true. I understand my pupose in life. I have accepted the world doesn’t see this in the same way as I do. But I have more connections to my higher self and can ask the higher meening. when I see or here the truth I shake. When I listen to your explanation, the whole time I get signs from my flame and from the higher guides. I known I’m a medium and the trust is as high I can get channeld by the higher me to work things out or if I become throuble. Trust is the most important part in my life.
    Thanks for sharing; speak to you soon in 5d…

  34. This was so helpful, I cannot thank you enough. Helped me to understand what I’m going through in a very clear and concise way. I asked my Angels some questions tonight about the twin flame process and this showed up to answer my specific questions. Keep up the great work!

  35. Hi Vera, I’m extremely sad.. I’m 40 years old and my twin passed away July 16th, 2017.. When he was on earth, I thought I was just crazy obsessed with him, I couldnt stand it.My friends told me to leave him alone but there was no way he didnt feel same as me, his mouth said one thing but lies said another. Chased him for 8 months after meeting and falling head over heels for each other.. He finally agreed to give it a try , we had lotta ups and downs but always had unconditional love.. 6 months later we gotta place, and had plans on being engaged in Aruba on vacay.. 8 months after moving in together he passed away.. He had alot of childhood trauma along with major current situations at the time he couldnt handle so was numbing himself.. He was going through alot but I felt my love should have been enough to keep him here.. I believe it was intentional, I told him that night I was done with him(I’d of never left, I was angry for good reason) and he told me without me he had nothing.. His last words were I’m done thru text. I was so traumatized after that I went into a spiritual awakening.. That is when I realized what I’d been experiencing all along, it made so much sense now.. Living without him while knowing I’ll never see him again in physical (I’m only 40, Billy was 37) is undescribeable.. My world was in color, now black and white.. The hole in my heart is tremendous, I actually for a bit wanted to die too to be with him.. I know there are ways of connecting but I dk how to do thst.. I meditate and think of him but I want to KNOW its him without a doubt. Vera, I NEED to connect with him, it’s been year and s half and not getting easier.. Hes getting further away and is getting harder..
    Thanks for your time and for reading this.. Thanks for breaking down this whole experience down into words I could understand .. Please give me advice to help me through this long life..

  36. Vera,

    it is with much gratitude to you for taking the time to channel this oh so helpful and inspiring message. For the last few years i have experienced the ups and downs associated with a romantic relationship which has shown to be a catalyst for me to look within myself and uncover that which is now healed (and continuing to heal). Today i am seeing with more clarity the utmost value to allowing one’s vibrant colors to shine bright for all to witness; to walk to the beat of one’s own drum; and the willingness to be “uncomfortable” in sharing with the world that which one knows to be true in the heart. It is becoming clear that we already are perfect just as we are and we do not need to be with another to feel complete. Ironically as one heals oneself the doors open to meeting wonderful fellow kindred souls with whom one may share in the mission here on Mother Earth.

    with much gratitude,

    Yosef Rayan (Jose Ryan)

  37. As a DF twin who has gone through the healing process and into my mission work and all of that, I 100% agree with everything here. FINALLY someone else who understands what this journey is actually all about, who is able to see through the superficial romantic elements of this and into the deeper lessons that this whole TF concept is trying to teach us. Our experiences with our twin are teaching and transforming us into the version of ourselves that we came down here to be, so that we could teach and lead others towards the kind of unconditional love that this journey imparts on us. It is an indusciton into a higher state of consciousness.

    Thank you for being a voice of reason and light for those on this journey.

    If anyone is interested, I have a deep dive video on twin flames that gives an extremely similar perspective as this article, talking about how our conception of the twin flame journey changes over time:

    And Vera, if you’re ever interested in chatting with a fellow teacher/coach who’s been through the journey, I’m always happy to connect with other twins and lightworkers. Find me on FB. Benjy Sherer.

    Best and love!

  38. its 2022 and ive been drawn.

    thank you for giving this effort.
    i needed the reaffirmation.
    and so it becomes manifest.
    as above
    so below.

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