Why we NEED the Mind to shift our Reality

It is common understanding in the spiritual world that we need to leave the mind to make the shift into a new reality and become a successful creator. But this is only half of the truth and often is misinterpreted, thinking that we need to abandon the mind and live alone from the heart and feel. This could not be further from the truth. Inner balance is only possible through alignment of heart, mind and physical body. 

A lot of spiritual practices and methods are excluding the mind and concentrate on feeling only. Yes, true, in order to shift frequencies, we need to feel energy and have an emotional experience. And that clearly does not take place in the mind but through the heart and through the physical body. And yet, before we actually have an emotional experience, we make a choice and set an intention. And that is whether we go into trust or mistrust: if we come from a place of love or fear in how we deal with our emotional experience. This choice is done with masculine energy. It is observing, focusing, and choosing before it is handed over into the feminine field of energy again, where we actually feel and process. If we ignore the mind, we automatically invite it to stay in the same old patterns and programming And those are fear based. So very often, the methods and exercises are  not as effective, because the mind wanders off into past or future, trying to figure out  what is happening and projecting all kinds of things. We judge and blame ourselves or others for feeling in a certain way or being emotional. We feel wobbly and unsafe, we feel like a victim, driven by the emotional experience. Without the active choice of the mind, we are not taking responsibility for our own creation in that moment.

Without the active choice of the mind, we are not taking responsibility for our own creation in that moment.” 

We have been so busy with being in the feminine only, because we have subconsciously and consciously made the masculine responsible and accountable for all the misery in the world. We have abandoned the masculine traits, and were learning to just be, receive, nurture etc. The more we did, the less actually happened, because we need the masculine energy just as much for a successful creation. The doing and action does not come from the feminine. So the feeling of being stuck is not only a result of the panicking mind, it is also a result of us ignoring our inner masculine. What we need to understand is that we need both, feminine and masculine for creation. And in order to change the experience from one that is based on mistrust/fear/lack to one that is based on trust/love/abundance, both – masculine and feminineneed to operate on a different, higher frequency level. And also that shifting needs a choice and intention first how I will deal with the emotional experience: with trust or mistrust.

The mind is the translator of masculine energy into intention and action. It is the gateway for consciousness to come through.” 

The mind is the translator of masculine energy into intention and action. It is the gateway for consciousness to come through and is the energy of focus. It focuses in a way that energy can materialize (by forming a structure energy can flow in).

The mind sets the intention to make a choice. That choice is always: Do I trust or do I mistrust.

Without the mind, there is no translation of masculine energy. That means, there is no gateway to manifestation. If we only remain on the feeling side, we remain in the field of possibilities, without ever making a choice and focus. There is no commitment. And commitment is the essential basis for dedication and manifestation – feeling the new choice letting it grow (feminine) and then let it manifest (masculine).

As long as the mind is programmed to react out of fear, it will always choose mistrust.”

As long as the mind is programmed to react out of fear, it will always choose mistrust. So we need to retrain and reprogram the mind to choose trust and set an intention build on trust. How do we do that?

1) Accept your Mind

First of all, we have to stop to condemn the (ego) mind for being the root cause and block to happiness. It is not doing that on purpose and has not learned any other way than trying to protect us. By accepting the mind, we stop fighting against ourselves. The mind is and will always be an important part of us, it will just change its way of working and processing information once we start transforming it.

2) Understand how your Mind works

 In order to be able to re-program the mind, we need to understand how the mind works. So actually, we provide the mind with the knowledge about itself and the way it functions to reduce reaction from fear and to creation from love. The so-called ego mind has its roots in the Amygdala, a small part of the brain in the hippocampus. There, the fear responses (fight, flight, freeze) are produced. Yet, this is also the center of motivation. And we can shift motivation out of fear into love/trust. The old neuro-pathways have to be replaced step by step by new ones. So every time we discover a fear reaction, we can stop, breathe and be aware that we are about to go down that neuro-pathway we had built over our lifetime. This is the moment of choice. Instead of choosing the old and react with a fear pattern, we can choose to embrace the experience and step right into it. This way, we are overcoming the fear of the fear and are step by step learning, that the fear has a much bigger and more dangerous looking façade than it actually is.

3) Appreciate and love your Mind

By having gained a better understanding how the mind works and what we need it for, we can really start appreciating it in a whole different way. We can accept it as an essential part of us that helps us to accelerate on our path to inner balance. Inner balance means the balance of masculine and feminine energy, so how would it be possible without the mind? As long as the mind is still in ego-mode, we need to hold a safe space for it so that it can re-discover its true essence.

4) Support your Mind into Trust

 The mind just wants to understand what is going on. If it does not understand what is going on, it goes into panic mode and starts to interpret and to create stories around beyond pure facts. Those stories are based on experiences in the past. Again – it goes into the library of old programs and strategies from the past to protect us from pain. And that is what keeps us in old loops of experiences.

In order to redirect the mind, it needs to understand how energetic dynamics work. It will be surprised and baffled first that it is basically the opposite of all the programming it had been provided with. And it will not be able to play that new program directly. Repetition of information/new data is necessary to step by step take the mind into a whole new paradigm of thinking and seeing things: An operations mode that switches from linear (time – past- future) to parallel (moment to moment / NOW).

5) Be patient with your Mind

That also means that we have to be patient with our mind. The ego does not transform over night, just as it had not been created over night. The physical body actually has to rebuild the neurological pathways – which again is a process of creation, where we again choose whether we trust or not.

Each time we use the mind to let consciousness come through, we also become aware of the old programs still running. And awareness is the first step to set an intention from a different/conscious perspective. Accepting it all means we are not fighting within any longer. The inner conflict dissolves and we are truly aligned to embody the balance of masculine and feminine. Enjoy that perfect dance of the feminine and masculine energies!

The texts I share are always based on my own intuition and/or on experiences of clients, friends and my own. I do not claim what I share to be the ultimate truth. I encourage everyone to only take what resonates to find your own truth and wisdom. As this is universal wisdom, I do not claim any copyright. Please feel free to share this content as long as you keep its message complete so that the meaning does not get twisted. Thank you. Vera


  1. beautiful! thank you Vera… that’s make really sense.
    Now, I guess the same works for sex instincts based on patterns we created from past experience, right? I mean sometimes we have sex pulses emerging suddenly (due to hormones, alcohol, drugs… or love! ) and difficult to control. My doubt is, does the sex obey to the ego or the reverse? if reverse, then should we include the heart, the mind and the sex in the process of balancing? and by the way, is sex energy masculine or feminine polarity?
    grateful if you could clarify…

    1. Thanks Andres! Happy it makes sense 🙂 There is a huge difference between sex based on fear/mistrust or based on love. Also here… we have the choice for a different experience. With it comes releasing a lot of old trauma and patterns from our emotional and physical body instead of suppressing them (which is a flight response of the ego…) Sex pulses are nothing bad, they are very natural. The question is how we deal with them 🙂 We can learn a whole new way of experiencing sexuality and sexual energies, alone or with a partner. When we put a scala of 1 to 10 and we thought the old way of having sex was really fantastic and could not get any better, it would be like a 1 or 2 on that new scala. The sexual act is the perfect dance of masculine and feminine energy. Only then the polarity that creates that dance is possible. Can highly recommend to watch or read David Deida on sexual energies. Much love!

  2. This is so briliiant! You gave words to what I knew and felt! And I kept bumping into to spiritual ‘just stay in awareness’ reaction. Thanks for this confirmation

  3. Vera, you are a very enlightened, gifted soul who happens to write very well!! So lucky that I found you and your beautiful sharing of very profound knowledge:). You continue to astound me at the most perfect moments…hhmmmm? Life is no coincidence and the mystery is so beautiful…I am so glad i found YOU:)

  4. Vera = Wisdom, Knowledge, connectiveness
    Thank you Vera. Always jump to read when I see one of yours. You are making a difference

  5. Dear Vera, as always, THANK YOU for putting words on what we go through <with the most perfect (divine!) timing <3 It is so much of comfort. Love and Light and JOY to you !

  6. Dear Vera,
    A few months ago I had an energy healing session and it was completely clear to me that my male and female sides of my body and psyche were not communicating at all. They were at war with each other and I didn’t even realize it. I was shocked.

    I started researching online and came on your writings. So helpful! I want to say how much I appreciate your beautiful way of bringing out this information for all of us.

    For over 40 years I’ve been focused on my feminine side- I was actively or emotionally part of the women’s movement starting in 1973. I thought the male side of me was just sort of taking care of himself and I pretty much ignored it. It was only in that energy session that I saw by not really welcoming his energy in me, I left the door open to the more defensive, ego-fear-based aspects of the masculine.

    Out of this whole experience, I was inspired to create a new coaching program for women to welcome back their Sacred Masculine and see him as the true partner for their (our) female creativity, power, and leadership.

    It’s just getting started. I feel clear that this is the next level of integration we women are called to open up to now. And your work is important in that journey. I love how you’ve now added the connection to the mind as our male partner to our female feelings.

    For sure, men are called to this too. It’s just that it manifests in a different way. All of it is to bring us out of victim mentality and into full consciousness.

    Thanks for sharing your awareness with us all.

    (I included a link to a guide for women to welcome their Sacred Masculine. If you’d rather not publish the link, I understand. )

    1. Linda! Thanks so much for taking the time to share your valuable insights and gratitude. That is so beautiful to receive! I am so happy to read that you are supporting women in redisovering their inner masculine. So important and a real game changer! Thanks for what you do (and are… of course we do not want to abandon the feminine either :-))

      1. Thanks, Vera. For sure, the point is not to abandon any part of us… to embrace all of us, especially the parts we’re scared of, reject, and disown. And it seems we didn’t really understand the consequence of turning away from the masculine when we associated it with “what’s wrong” with the world. Now we can reclaim those male And female qualities and integrate both in wholeness.

  7. Thanks for useful perspectives and advice. An additional thought from my side is the importance of the mind, intentions and manifestation as key elements of bringing transformation into existing arenas and structures.

    1. Thanks Thomas, very true! And when done from a perspective based on trust, there is focus without an expectation <3

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