When we embark on the twin flame journey, we have no idea what we have gotten into on a conscious, mind level. We just have this deep knowing in our heart that this is special. And the first encounter brings so much energetic power with it, that it shakes us up so deeply – we have no chance but to move forward and step-by-step drop everything that is not authentic about us and is keeping us from being completely free. For a long time, nobody but our twin partner is able to push our buttons so perfectly to recognize what is keeping us from ascension – and from absolute self-love.
It takes quite a while until we figure out that the connection we have with the other person was never about a relationship in the old (3D) way based on co-dependency. It was always about finding back to our true power, our true self and remembering who we truly are. To remember our essence and fully embody it as an unconditional being living an unconditional life. This connection serves us to transcend duality into unity within us. It empowers us in ways and provides us with new perspectives we never thought were possible. It invites us to overcome all the limitations we had believed to be true.
Cycles of Growth
As we move forward, we learn, we grow, and we let go. Just to enter another cycle of learning, growing and letting go. Although it seems relentless and like a never-ending story, the process takes us higher and higher in frequency. Into more and more wisdom, faith and trust and less and less attachments, beliefs and expectations. We learn so much about the energetic dynamics of these divine partnerships and are starting to get the idea, that this union is an energy that is not tied to one physical person (which only is true in 3D and 4D).
And yet – although we feel more and more confident and detached – somehow we still feel awkward around our partner. There is still some insecurity or anxiety around it. There is still not the ease and full trust and detachment we would love to have. We still have that longing and the expectation to reunite with our divine counterpart. And…. Exactly that is what is blocking it from happening.
Expectations are a manifestation of a fear.”
Expectations are a manifestation of a fear. And in this case – it is the fear of not being good enough. We still doubt that we are worthy of this love. “But – we have done so much work, so we must come to reunion. We deserve it! And all the writings and texts out there say that if you do your inner work, you will get to reunion and ascend together. So it must be in store for us!” That is how our 3D ego-mind tries to cope with it. As hard as this might sound, but that is conditional thinking. If I do my work – then I will achieve….
And that is what blocks the energy from being transformed into the unconditional frequency of 5D+ completely.
Beliefs and Expecations are preventing a Reunion
Although we often are not aware of it, we still have certain beliefs and expectations around the process and the outcome of this union. And that shows that we are still in 3D dynamics and thinking/behavioral patterns. Existence in 5D+ is only possible without any beliefs, labels or expectations. It is about opening up to the endless possibilities we have. Only then – the energy has the space to do its magic for us and we create a reality that is far beyond of what we could have ever expected. By letting go of it all, including the expectation of a reunion or the expectation, that our partner is that one person in a physical body we are supposed to live happily ever after with, we set ourselves free. Free from humanness. Free from anything we had identified with – including the twin flame story. We become divine. We ascend into a state of no-mind and no-thingness. A feeling of floating in a stream of warm and golden water. The most beautiful flow. The flow we once felt when we were meeting our partner for the first time.
Once we go through this shift, we are coming into wholeness. The fear of not being good enough is gone. That is the moment when this cosmic love becomes truly unconditional in the physical realm.“
Once we go through this shift, we are coming into wholeness. The fear of not being good enough is gone. That is the moment when this cosmic love becomes truly unconditional in the physical realm. It carries no more expectations of a certain outcome, no more fears, attachments, longing, anxieties or awkwardness. With this wholeness, we break completely free. When it happens, the energy we perceive with our partner feels pretty flat. It almost seems boring after all that human drama and all the push and pull dynamics that were caused by our fear and by the fairytale and Hollywood programming, how romance and relationships should be like. Now, we cannot relate to all that drama anymore as we have overcome the addiction to it.
The partnership becomes a relatedness, a friendship. We detach, and live from moment to moment. The moment we unite the masculine and feminine within us, there is no fear left and we cannot feel hurt anymore, we are sharing our love unconditionally, fully rooted and anchored in self-love and authenticity. We come together and part in a natural flow be it with the partner or with other people who are fully empowered and anchored in this independency. Without any human ties, without any need, any pain and with full trust. Because we know: We can never lose what is a part of us. No more uncomfortable feelings or anxiousness. No more doubts whether we said the right or the wrong thing and worries how the other would perceive it. Because we know that we always say what is necessary from a soul perspective. No more desire or pressure to reunite or make something happen that is not ready yet to align. We move into oneness and a healthy interdependency. Communication and meetings become easy and normal.
It feels like talking to a different person. And – that is true: We have changed and evolved so much and have returned to our essence. We indeed are different persons.“
It feels like talking to a different person. And – that is true: We have changed and evolved so much and have returned to our essence. We indeed are different persons. We have moved beyond the limiting human concepts of the 3rd dimension and can no longer relate to it. We are fearless. The connection feels so easy and natural, because, in the 5th dimensional plane, the plane of oneness where the concept of separation does not exist, we all already have been reunited – all the time. We just did not realize it while still being in 3D – the vibration of perceived separation. When we enter 5D, we understand – that this whole process had only one goal: To lead us back to ourselves and our self-love, playfulness, joy and absolute freedom. To prepare us to inspire with a new unconditional lifestyle that has nothing to do with the old. And being in that place is so much more amazing and beautiful than anything we could have ever dreamt of.
The texts I share are always based on my own intuition and/or on experiences of clients, friends and my own. I do not claim what I share to be the ultimate truth. I encourage everyone to only take what resonates to find your own truth and wisdom. As this is universal wisdom, I do not claim any copyright. Please feel free to share this content as long as you keep its message complete so that the meaning does not get twisted. Thank you. Vera
A lot of wonderful information, again! Thank you, Vera!
Thank you for sharing such wonderful words…….they make so much deep sense and feelings. Alice
Thank you SO much dear Vera! You wrote it so beautifully! And it is just as i was realizing past few days. Thanks a whole bunch for sharing your love and kindness.
This is great. Totally agree. Makes so much sense. Thank you dear Sister. xx
I too was coming to this realization over the past few days and you describe it so well. This post more than any of yours has clarified for me the incredible process we are all going through one stage or another. Your guidance and sharing has been a blessing in these times and your courage to open up and share your journey has inspired me greatly. Thank you dear sister. x x
Awesome Julie! So happy to see and hear how many people are coming to this realisation now. Thank you so much for sharing and for your beautiful feedback. I am so grateful to read that my work has been of such an assistance. XX
thanks Vera, sounds so beautiful all this!
BUT! I can drop all my expectations and let things happening once we both reach unconditional love… but what about if someone prays for its divine partner to open her consciousness and heart, so she will reach 5D as well… is this an obstacle? in other words, shall we stop praying for the other one?
Lovely Andres, what we have to learn on this journey is that none of the parts is more or less awaken than the other one. A lot of texts express that in a different way, but you will come to the realization, that the other part has been waiting for you just the same. It is always our own energy blocking us from being with them or talking to them. It will shift immediately once the fear of not being good enough has been transmuted completely. There is no issue at all with praying for them and expressing your love in that way, nevertheless – it is important to put yourself first. What we experience with our twin flame is always our self-love reflected back to us through them. We create it. And as long as we are praying for them to open their heart or to evolve, we are doubting and not fully trusting the process, not fully trusting them – and – as they are the energetic mirror: Trusting ourselves. So, something that helped me very much is something two wonderful coaches (a united TF couple) said to me when I was still in the beginning of understanding it all: “Live your life as if it won’t happen, but know in your heart it will”. Much love!
thank you so much Vera for these words. I will definitively follow your last formula, it gives me hope and strength!
Wow. A beautiful way with words. I reached this ‘place’ that you so eloquently described. But I didn’t have understanding of what was going on. This was after finally speaking to my twin flame after years of no communication. Was expecting the big bang and ….nothing. flat, just like you mention. But now I understand and your post has brought much clarity. Thank you.Shalom.
🙂 Thank you so much for sharing your experience Hadassah! Much love to you!
it has been perfectly timed that I reading this beautiful insight today as I made a huge quantum leap only yesterday in the same realization on what partnerships in 5D are meant to be like. I just could not write it is eloquently as you did, Vera. Many thanks! with love, Lucienne