The question on secure signs comes up again and again as people want to know whether they have found their true twin flame. A lot of the signs that are described are just as valid for soul mate encounters and non-twin flame catalyst experiences. How can I be sure that the person I met indeed is my twin flame? As our head tends to need confirmation to everything: Here are five very secure signs that you indeed deal with a twin flame connection.


Before I get into this topic, I would like to remind ourselves though of the phenomenon, that our ego needs to label everything. In 5D terms, we would not ask ourselves the question, whether we met our twin aspect or a soul mate, or if we are experiencing a catalyst situation. Because, no matter what experience we go through, we know that we agreed on having it before we incarnated.

There is no better or worse. It does not matter if it is a twin connection or some other type of soul connection we are going through. Our soul chose it for a specific reason. They are all necessary to contribute to our awakening and growth. So please, honour and value the experiences you go through without putting any label on it. As Caroline Myss says: “The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.”



Nevertheless, I decided to share this article as in a certain stage of the journey this can be important to know to be able to deal with ego. It will also contribute to get the bigger picture of the real purpose of a twin flame encounter.


With that said, here are five secure signs for a twin flame encounter:


1) You know it instantly and it goes very deep

Meeting the twin is not the typical feeling of falling in love and having butterflies in your stomach. If you meet your twin aspect, you just know instantly and without a doubt, that this is very special and is something you have never experienced before. This is often referred to as the bubble love phase, but it has not to be purely bubbly. Even in that first phase there can be a mixture of fear and excitement at the same time because the feelings are so intense. It is a feeling of being connected in deep love on a very honest and open level. You go into profound conversations with each other and share your darkest secrets and feelings without any shame although, in earthly terms, you hardly know each other. And yet, you feel like you have known each other forever. You don’t do any of the role play, such as trying to show your best side only. When you look into your twins eyes, you see yourself and feel like a long-lost feeling of belonging is back. You are completely energised, you hardly need any sleep or food and you feel you have come home.


2) You know your life will never be the same again

After the encounter, you instantly just know that your life will never be the same again. For the first time in your life you feel that you are really living and loving, not only existing. You just know, that you cannot go back to “normal”, living a lie and living up to other’s expectations. You learn in a fast manner, that everything you experienced before the encounter was an illusion. Despite the emotional cleansing after the meeting with your twin,  you have these moments of feeling free, independent and empowered. And then it just happens: Your life is turning upside down and you are pushed into a chain of events that force you to drop everything that is not authentic about you. This encounter sparks you to become your true self and step into your mission.


3) You are pushed into an awakening process on speed

Through the encounter, your energy system was ripped wide open – often referred to as Kundalini rising. Like an infant that has no immune system yet, all of a sudden you are very prone to all kinds of energies around you. It feels like listening to 20 songs in parallel when being in a room full of people. You feel emotions in parallel and you feel like you are going insane, because you have not learned yet how to tell the difference between what is yours and what is not and you have not yet learned how to handle these energies and shield yourself. In addition to that, you are going through the dark night of the soul. You are ridding yourself of every fear, trauma and pattern that is still left and you go through your ultimate cleansing. Your body is changing, your cravings are changing and you become more introvert paired with a desire to be in nature and quietness. Your old, fake self is dying, making space for the real you. Step by step, you rediscover your innate gifts and talents, which are important for your task and mission on earth.


4) You are on a mission

The twin flame encounter is not about romance. It is tied to a mission and you are pushed into it. Those trying to stay in 3D romantic patterns will have an extremely hard time as the push and pull and run and chase dynamic will not stop until they surrender and accept the bigger meaning behind this encounter. Only then, a reunion becomes possible. Funny enough this happens at a point, when you do not need it anymore, because you are happy and whole by yourself. Our task is to spread light and love, using the powerful twin energies to serve humanity and this planet to ascend. Your higher self and thus your twin as well as your spiritual guides are preparing you for your special mission on earth. Automatically, you will become busy with the question of “Who am I” for a while, until you have figured it out. Then, in an instant, your mission becomes perfectly clear to you and you just go and do it.


5) The twin stays in your energy field after the healing is done

When all of your healing is done and you have balanced your male and female energies within and between the two aspects of you, your twin remains in your energy field and you feel deep and unconditional love without any strings attached. You are connected via the heart chakra for the rest of this life. You feel empowered, independent and yet your twin’s energy remains a part of yourself. Your joint energy is becoming pure fuel for your mission and is motivating and encouraging you to move forward. You do not feel the need anymore to be together in physically, as you are happy and whole yourself. The wish to be together again in the physical becomes a nice added benefit to share unconditional love.

If your encounter was a soul mate / catalyst experience mimicking a twin flame encounter, then, after the lessons and the healing that you both agreed on to do for each other, the connection just naturally drops away without any pain or effort. You part in unconditional love and the bond is cut.


The texts I share are always based on my own intuition and/or on experiences of clients and my own. I do not claim what I share to be the ultimate truth. I encourage everyone to only take what resonates to find your own truth and wisdom. As this is universal wisdom, I do not claim any copyright. Please feel free to share this content as long as you keep its message complete so that the meaning does not get twisted. Thank you.

With lots of light and love, Vera Ingeborg

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