Note: I don’t write much about twin flames anymore because I do not want people to stick to a certain label and be stuck in a romantic dream or the idea of reunion as an equal to a relationship. It is so much more than that. The whole process is about oneness and finding back to inner truth and freedom in the first place. It is about full empowerment and enjoying aloneness. When all fear based patterns, all dependencies, all neediness, all expectations are energetically cleared from all bodies, and complete balance of the masculine and feminine energies is reached, the possibility for cosmic partners to come together opens up,to co-create and serve for the greater good and contribute to build new earth. In short: Ego is gone. More often that not, they walk, create and serve individually.
This article does not judge or compare in any way, everyone is equally important and serves a specific purpose. It is written with the intention to help get a broader understanding, why the physical manifestation of these connections can differ despite the same energetics being at play.
People going through a twin flame experience are often confused because there is so much different info out there and so many different twin pairs sharing different teachings and truths. Working through the jungle of information can be quite challenging. In addition to that, many compare their own journey to the stories of different twin flame couples that seem to have made it through the boot camp. Nevertheless, all of them still have to deal with the challenges of ascension, no matter if in physical “re-union” or not. To understand that better, here is an overview of the different types of connections. In this article, we focus on those where both “halves” are incarnated at the same time.
Before taking a closer look into those differences, it is also important to point out that different pairs have signed up for different access points, meaning they chose different tasks and challenges before incarnating. Everyone is exactly where they should be in their process, so comparing is rather counter-productive. We are all asked to develop the trust and inner knowing that everything is happening exactly as it should, and for the best outcome for all involved. Energetically, pairs can be in physical “re-union”, without having reached a full balance energetically. These types of connections are usually very challenging and draining for the pairs and require permanent focus on the connection to balance between the two human beings that is not balanced within them individually yet.
Having said this, here are the main different types of connections:
No Separation Phase at all
This is the most infrequent connection of all of them as it is very draining and challenging for both partners. Despite the intense energetic pulls, caused by an inner imbalance of feminine and masculine energies and by 3D conditioning and fear, the pair decides to stay together, in most cases have children and work through the process together. Often, these pairs do not know for years or even decades what they are experiencing and why their relationship is so challenging and draining despite the huge love they feel for each other. All their energy is spent on somehow maintaining balance, as they do not understand that it is about finding balance within themselves first. They are so busy with themselves, that they do not participate much in social activities. Their spiritual side remains hidden for a long time. Often after years and years of struggle, the carrier of the more feminine energy (which is not gender based) comes across information on twin flames and all of a sudden understands. Energetically, many of these pairs still have not reached a state of energetic reunion, although being together physically for a long time. They have tried to make this connection work based on old conditional relationship templates that are not suitable for the very high frequency they share.
These pairs have incarnated and chosen this path to show the many others going through the process, that the physical separation is a blessing and should be welcomed. They help people to understand that silence helps both partners to focus on themselves and on building their own strength and inner balance.
Once they have found their own balance, they can work on this connection in a whole different way, and finally reach energetic and then physical reunion based on freedom, authenticity and trust. Their new connection is completely different from their former experience. That is when they start to really develop their gifts and talents in a whole new way and touch people with their energy to the core.
Early Reunion after short Separation
There are quite a lot of twin pairs that are also publicly sharing their own experience going through the separation process and then reaching union. Most of these pairs are indeed living together but not in full energetic reunion (which equals full energetic balance with all that is, which equals oneness). They still go through a lot of push and pulls and daily struggles as the energy is not as balanced as it should be. Many have cleared most of their relationship related beliefs and patterns and yet often abundance or health topics still play a major role. They mostly have troubles of being physically separate from each other and experience great feelings of dependency, especially when the other is gone. That is why they often feel that their mission can be fulfilled jointly only. Often, there is still a lot of spiritual ego stuff to clear. These pairs need to be highly valued, as they stay in this condition usually over many years to help many going through this process when they pass a certain energetic gateway. While people move on from them when they have learned that there is more to come, these pairs remain there as the important wayshower on that frequency level. They are sacrificing their own ascension to serve many others on their way.
On and off and on and off
There are quite a lot of pairs that also come together and separate again while going through cycles of drama and fear. They both cannot be with and cannot be without each other. The result is intense togetherness for a while, often including physical experiences, just to fall apart again and going through longer or shorter periods of separation. They are learning on the go that the balancing is necessary. Like the previous types of connections, also for them the main portion of their energy goes into maintaining the connection and trying to find outer balance before inner balance. Which can prolong that process and pattern. Nevertheless, those pairs use the separation phases to find themselves and their authenticity. In these periods, they develop their own life and tasks more and more to reach their freedom and find their purpose. So each time they come together again, they are using this re-connection to push the next buttons for each other that need to be cleared until everything is gone that is in the way and true physical reunion becomes possible.
Separation and Friendship only
This type of connection seems to be the toughest one at first but turns out to be the smoothest in the end. These pairs have decided to not come together physically before full energetic reunion (i.e. inner energetic balance and then energetic balance in the connection) is reached. That is why these pairs experience long periods of separation with hardly or no contact at all, and they only get back together when it is needed to push into the next level of releasing and clearing. While the feminine part often already sees very clearly what this connection truly is, the masculine part remains “asleep” for a longer period. Once they are back in touch again, the masculine part often defines this connection as “friendship only” as they cannot feel the connection the same as long as their heart center is closed most of the time. In these connections, bi-polarity is cooking high, and the feminine often has the feeling to deal with two persons (like a 3D and a 5D version of the partner that do not know each other or remember each other). That often, especially in earlier phases leaves them completely confused, as the words and actions often differ a lot. Although it seems very hurtful from the human perspective to be in separation and getting a friendship talk, from an energetic perspective, these pairs work very structured and focused through their own stuff, subconsciously knowing that this is the quickest way to find back to balance, happiness and joy. They are finding inner balance first before balancing the energy between the two. They are finding their freedom, authenticity and individual talents and gifts and build a life on their own first, which in the end makes an energetic and physical reunion easier as energy is directed into self first.
Spiritual Connection first
There are also twins that experience intense connections in the etheric only, without a physical encounter. The energetic experiences are a lot more intense than for those pairs that have met in the physical. This is often the case for celebrity twins, where the non-celebrity recognizes the partner first. They do all the cleansing and clearing on the energetic level, until they are ready for a first physical encounter to activate the partner to go into their own balancing and cleansing process. These connections are most challenging in terms of trusting the own intution, because the non-celebrity twin is often declared to be completely insane and just hopelessly in love with a famous person.
Separation and no Reunion
There are also pairs that are not making it to reunion as they are too stuck in 3D belief patterns and fears. By holding on to those, they keep going through the same spirals, experiencing pain from attachments and neediness. These low frequencies of fear keeps the two apart energetically. These pairs are getting less and less though as the frequencies on the planet are rising and supporting the awakening and transformation of the pairs.
“No matter what the physical manifestation looks like of the connections, the energetic dynamics are always the same.”
So looking at all types of connections, we can see that the energetic dynamics are always the same. The connections are exhausting and draining, when there is a imbalance within the individuals and between the two. Real energetic and physical reunion without heartaches, pushs and pulls is only possible when the individuals have fully balanced themselves within, have reached freedom from all conditioning and have found their true essence and self love, and when ego has completely transformed into a free spirit. The energies on the planet are now allowing this more and more to happen. Nevertheless, each individual needs to work for and through this on their own and consciously clear all low fear frequency patterns from their mental, emotional and physical bodies. No matter if they are in touch with their partners, even living with them or not talking to them at all.
Twin Flame experiences do not have the purpose of a reunion in the old beliefs around relationship and fulfilling each other. They have the purpose to challenge you out of your belief systems and conditioning, and to empower you beyond anything you could imagine. So don’t try to sit and wait. Embrace the triggers, embrace the pain, to liberate yourself from the mind-prison you have been in.
The texts I share are always based on my own intuition and/or on experiences of clients, friends and my own. I do not claim what I share to be the ultimate truth. I encourage everyone to only take what resonates to find your own truth and wisdom. As this is universal wisdom, I do not claim any copyright. Please feel free to share this content as long as you keep its message complete so that the meaning does not get twisted. Thank you. Vera
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Thank you Vera, great article again x
This was fabulous, Vera. So spot on and insightful. Thank you!
Mine is connected to a celebrity who ignores me but writes accepts my letters .I don’t normally believe in liking celebs but can’t ignore this one .He keeps me awake constantly all night .He sleeps but I can feel his moving his buzzing energy alldau all night ?Help
Thank you Vera – very interesting. What are your thoughts on the ‘false twin?’
May I ask what do you think is a false twin?
There is not any thing such as a false twin flame you only have 1 twin flame the rest were/are soulmates and soulmates are not just romantic partners.
Your so called “false” twin was just someone you had a bad relationship with aka karmic partner…
Is it true that some highly-conscious and compassionate evolved souls, at this particular time in Earth’s history, are being “attracted” to or matched up with souls who are stuck physically, mentally and emotionally in a negative 3D reality? The reunion is for the purpose of serving in a supportive spiritual role; ie, not trying to fix, but providing a beacon of love, light and hope and bringing others along through this shift. I know others who are in this supportive role and intuitively have been told that there are many serving this way. Or are we all fooling ourselves, or being misguided for loosh?
Thank you so much for a clear, insightful and thought-provoking article. I’m no scientist at all but I know we’re all physical & non-physical objets of the universe so I see the ‘twin flame’ phenomenon as a law of the universe, a way of nature to learn more about itself and work towards more evolution (=love, since it’s the force that propels everything forward). In that respect, all relationships serve this purpose and ‘TF’ connections are like evolved and more powerful connections beginning to develop on a larger scale towards more awareness, just like in a brain. A united pair is more powerful and a better conductor of love. After all, aren’t we all god’s brain?!
Thank you very much! Very clear and well explained. I believe that each pair of souls choose their journey before they born. I my case we chose the scenario of “Separation and Friendship only until all is cleared” and I have been prepared for that challenge many years before I met my twin flame.
Were you already awakened many years before meeting your tf? Are you the runner or chaser? how do you cope with it?
Great read I believe my twin and I also chose the “separation and friendship ” Though in our case our friendship was a ” friends with benefits” type friends. We have never been a real couple guess none of us were ready. Our friendship resulted in a son though. I have been awakening for a year now and just found out about Twinflames earlier this year. Thank you clarifying this tough journey
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Yes, yes, yes, exactly how I have felt it ! A 3D twin and a 5 D twin, two different persons. Being 3 years in separation I met him only a few times on the street having small talk, leaving me wondering who was this man ??? Is this the same person I have such a strong love connection with in the 5 D? This is probably the reason I can’t imagine how it would be like if he really starts to contact me and we will start to unite again. Anyway if it was possible to “recommend ” the yourney go for full separation, difficult in the beginning but so worthwhile after a while, freedom, peace , no struggle and drama, going your own way with a very strong 5D connection with your beloved!! Thank you Vera, again a wonderful article.❤️
You cannot have two twin flames – your 5D twin is most likely the higher self of your 3D twin.
You cannot have two twin flames –
Your 5D twin is the higher self of your 3D twin.
That is what I have…
I have the spiritual connection and – or 5D and although my twin flame is in 3D we met online and not in person .. yet.. if ever.. we’re not speaking because someone told him we were twin flames- so I wait
You cannot have 2 twin flames
the 5D version you speak of is your 3D twin flame’s higher self
2 things struck me as being very true in this article: that relationships can be transformed and recalibrated, and that being aware of manifestations of the ego is hugely important for the long run. We have a child who will probably require care for the rest of his life and who depends very much on both parents, and it’s good to know that there is room for our type of relationship (with its many versions 1.0, 2.0, etc., basically a bit of everything in your article) in the Twin Flames world. Nobody would make a movie of our relationship, and many people have recommended a divorce (for the past 20 years), but it is a reality in which we have found peace, personal growth (which includes a lot of work on one’s ego), forgiveness, joy and much laughter. Thanks, Vera!
Superb and very interesting, thank you.
Interesting article.. definitely inspiring.. though I find that real life stories cannot be categorized so simply.. categorization, I feel, is just another mental construct we eventually step out of.
I’m separated from my Twin at the moment.. Those few times we met, his presence, his words, his gestures shook my being to the core, and accelerated my progress so rapidly.. I cry from the joy that I was given such a blessing, such a miracle, that I could meet him. But how could this fragile body survive the energy of my extasy?! Separation may be the best at the moment..
Yesterday, funnily it was 11th July, I found a photo of him. When I looked at him, suddenly I felt as if I had conjured him there, in front of me, I felt his tremendous energy, my Kundalini skyrocketed, my heart started to beat like crazy, it lasted for about two hours.. Our joining cleared so many blocks within me.. Today I woke up feeling reborn..
hi there Vera
I have been reading this article and phew…….. says it all. I totally recognise the situation of Separation and Friendship only until all is cleared. Simple and clear explanation of the situation my twin and I at this very moment and feels like coming to union as we both do our own stuff.
Thanks for the information, Much appreciated. I have just read about your retreats and would have definitely booked the Cornwall one next week, but other plans are now place – I live in Newcastle upon Tyne.
So it might well be Hawaii next year…..LOL. Have been there several times and have some great spiritual friends there – so a visit is long overdue.
I have been separated (mutual decision) from my twin flame for more than 17 years. Our connection is still very strong however we only communicate in dream work scenarios. Are there any others who share this path? Curious.
First and foremost, you are Mighty I AM Presences, Individualized Aspects of God in physical form. These instruments – the physical, emotional, mental, etheric, are actually only vehicles for your Mighty I AM Presence to Full-Fill its Fiery Destiny. This is only possible thru physical embodiment. We come forth to Master Creation and when we do, we Ascend, never to embody in a physical form again.
So what you are experiencing, working together while your “Instruments” are asleep at night – your Finer Bodies are going Forth to work together on that shared Destiny, in The Higher Octaves.
This is magnificent. At some given point,whether in this embodiment or the next, you will come more together to actually Work those Works in physical form together.
Hello, is there a way to talk to someone personally about my possible twin flame connection? I have been awakening and noticing synchronicities that pull me towards a certain celebrity. Thing is, I’m not sure if these synchronicities have to do with him as a person, or just guidance towards what he can teach me on my journey of self-discovery. Anyway, the reason I’m asking is because it’s been a very difficult process for me, as I sometimes wonder if I’m reading the signals wrong, or if maybe there is no way a celebrity would ever want to be with me. He’d have to really see spirituality over material possessions as physically I cannot provide much to someone who has financial abundance. Everywhere I’ve searched says the same thing, that I’m just daydreaming or it’s a celebrity crush, that if you believe a celebrity is your twin you’re probably stuck in ego.. This is the first article I’ve come across where someone is accepting of the possibility that one twin flame is a celebrity. If someone can provide me with some clarity or guidance, I would be immensely grateful as this journey can be confusing enough without someone telling me I have my head in the clouds.. I guess I should also note that I don’t get celebrity crushes, I’ve been passed physical appearances for years, I am only interested in soul matters. Which also confuses me as the more I heal my inner pain, the more I am becoming physically attracted to him.. If anyone feels like they’d like to hear my whole story (how it started, why I believe it’s synchronicity, etc everything I didn’t have the space to write about here) and possibly be able to shed some light on my situation, it would mean so much to me. Thank you for this wonderful article and your help so far!
Autumn, I’m in the same boat as you. I know that a certain well known person is my TF, he has completely ignored me but is aware and awake. If you’d like to talk more let me know maybe we can help each other.
are you connected to your guides or angels? If you are, ask them for a sign to send you, if that certain someone is truly your twin flame. I didn’t take ‘the crush’ very seriously until the universe kept pushing him in front of me over the media, and it became impossible for me to ignore. I didn’t know he’s my twin til last year, when I got it declared more than once. They say you know when you encounter your TF, by intuition, but I think when one is ‘a celebrity’ the whole concept seems even more implausible and crazy and makes it harder to believe. I felt like a complete obsessed whacko, until I found out. But once I did and believed, suddenly everything made sense, with all the reoccurring numbers and synchronicities. You have to trust your intuition. If you’re drawn to him, it is for a reason and if you’re true twin flames, a time will come, when you meet in person or have an energetic union. I never had such vivid dreams with any known person but my twin.
Hi Pepper. I am experiencing a similar twin flame experience. I saw my twin who is an actor 5 years ago. Only found out about twin flames last year. We had a spiritual connection first for 5 years.We are one in 5d but he is recently married in the physical. I am worried that it will end badly as the relationship is seems unhealthy to me. I feel crazy sometimes, but my feelings for him are part of me. I learning to trust myself even though it makes no sense. He has helped me lot.
Hi, Taryn. Seems like you just have entered the probably toughest part of this journey. Keep the faith. 🙂 His relationship probably will end badly and you can’t help it. You just have to wait it out and focus on yourself. The holders of masculine energy learn their lessons by various relationships and people. We need to let them finish their karmic cycle. Try not to think about them and learn to love yourself unconditionally. Good luck.
I will. Thanks. His behaviour makes sense now. I am learning to heal from my past. How will I know he is coming for me? This is seems unbelievable at times.
It will happen naturally and you’ll know when he starts chasing you, even just energetically. It’s when you stop thinking about him and don’t expect it at all. If you wanna chat, hit me with an e-mail address or something. Cheers.
I am in the same situation as Autumn and Tana. I had no clue about this TF thing or anything like it until a month ago. I just wanted an answer to all the weird things I have experienced with a famous person. I saw him face to face by accident when I was 14, I am 49 now. But there are so many things we have in common, even being sick at the same time. I just want to know if I am delusional or crazy. It is very draining and tiring. Thanks for the guidance anyone can provide.
Hi Pepper, I am worried about sharing my email. I think he is communicating with me telepathically. Today He tells me I am beautiful and he sees me in his dreams. He was telling me he would every night if we were together. He communicate with me through music.
I am, too, he may recognize it.But you can write me to firstname.lastname@example.org, if you want. I’m not sure if I can give you any valuable advice, though, each journey is different and unique.
It’s still Pepper, I pressed the auto fill by mistake.
I´m in the same boat as you Taryn, Pepper, Tana and Sunny.
It´s a relieve to finally read about similar story´s.
My journey has been a rolercoaster, but we finally met!!! I write to tell you keep the faith!!!
Trust your guts and your Guidance, and for almost your hearts!
Energy clearing brings the most results. Focus on the Soullevel relationship and listen to their Higherselves!
I can recomend a Twin Flame Couple who work with TF. They have helped us a lot.
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It has been over 34 years since I last saw my twin. She broke free from me and I fear I am Separation and no Reunion. I think of her with every waking and sleeping moment as If she where really still here with me . I am forever chasing and her forever running. I have attempted to reach out to her to get “Don’t ever contact me again, I do not wish to talk to you nor ever see you again.” So alas I have lived with this torment for many years. Will I ever reunite with her? Is it possible to only reconnect with her in the Dream realm?
Good day. I came across your article today in search of finding some information about my own situation. I am totally confused and don’t know what I have just been through or experienced. I need some help on finding out what whirlwind I have just had end all of a sudden. I have read info about twin flames this month and I can only assume this is what I could have been through, but don’t know for sure. I need clarification and assistance if anyone is willing to assist. Thanks in advance.
Hi I am experiencing a celebrity twin flame. He is a well known actor. We spiritually connected 5 years ago and I have had visions dreams universal signs about him. I did not know about twin flames till last year. I can communicate with his higher self. I have met the spirit of our daughter. She called me Mama and has told me that he is her Dad and more recently that she and her brother will be born. My twin recently got married. I have stopped going on social media to avoid hearing gossip about him about his personal life and seeing him with his wife, but I still get signs. I was so upset that his higher self sent me poem about how we are one. My twin has helped me so much.
Great article. I found it today after googling for an answer to my situation. For years I have looked for an explanation about “weird things” that had happened to me related to a famous person; dreams, being sick at the same time, seeing him everywhere, several times I woke up suddenly in the morning and turned on the tv just find out he is on tv, etc. I know him because he is famous but he doesn’t know me. I learned about TF about a month ago. I don’t know much about this journey but I feel something is going on. I tried to ignore it but there are way so many coincidences to be nothing. So, yeah, I am lost and I would like to know if any of you can throw some light into this.
I wonder if the confusion over twin flames/twin souls is whether they are a rarity (like identical biological twins) or if everyone is one but it’s just rare for both halves to be on the planet at the same time.
Either way, I can’t think of any twin flame “couple” in recorded human history. Twin flame couple of WHAT? Where psychics and New Agers are really taking advantage of people is selling this idea that a twin flame is this perfect lover or romantic partner you will find in this lifetime and that together you are both divinely anointed earth missionaries tasked with spiritually enlightening the world. In reality, if a twin flame actually managed to figure out who that other half is, it would be under the most extraordinary circumstances (perhaps through a near death experience) and such premature recognition would defy the natural laws of this 3D plane. In other words, it would be an ACCIDENT of such monumental proportions that neither was prepared for, causing one or both to go to the ends of the earth to find the other. It is a complete disturbance of the life path and the natural order of things in this dualistic creation. So God help anyone who finds themselves on such a journey.
I met my twin flame 4 years ago, although shortly after our relationship, he broke up with me -I become the chaser, although nothing came from this – we both ended up with each other people, however both he and I ended up coming together again after forming a friendship – recently he ended it and I want to start again – issues around him made him end it? Although I have been told that twin flames eventually make their own way back to each other.
How many times can a twin flame relationship end before they can come together?
Twin flames have to finally be a deeply loving couple in order to demonstrate the highest unconditional love in this lifetime! Every other combination you describe must be false twin flames.