It is tempting – there is this guru, this expert who seems to know it all – this person seems to have all the answers and seems to be so much wiser than yourself, and so much more evolved than you are.
So – what does our little ego do? It wants the same. Fast. So we start following them, on facebook, in their blog, we are booking sessions with them, just because we want to understand what we have to do to get there. To reach this same wonderful state they are in. We want their energy. We choose our hero. The one we trust. The one we follow. Our personal guru. And here we go again. We identify with someone else. We put this person on a pedestal. We value him or her more than ourselves – despite the fact that we actually know that we should disidentify with anything to find back to our true self.
“We often don’t even realise that we do identify with someone else.”
The problem is that we often don’t even realize that we do identify with someone else, because we feel that this is just a spiritual exchange we are in, and we are learning from a master. As long as the chosen guru has the right intentions, it is not such a big issue. Because then they will help you to overcome the need to follow them, and assist you to empower you, and guide you back to your true inner self and wisdom.
It gets more tricky, if your chosen guru knows about your ego in need, and uses it for his or her own agenda.
When they know how to use the energy you dedicate to their ideology for their own sake. Not for yours. You are becoming energetic fuel for someone else satisfying his or her own ego needs without even knowing it.
The metaphysical world has become a big market, and business. It is hard to find those that really are there to support you to move forward, acting from a place of unconditional love, not from their own ego.
Please observe yourself very well in a situation like this. Not all of the self-proclaimed healers out there have the best intentions for you. How to tell whether someone truly is a master, who is supporting you into your own mastery? It is very simple, here are a couple of indicators.
1) They rely on energy.
They know that people who need their support will be drawn to them naturally.
2) They are quiet.
They share their wisdom in a non-demanding and tolerant way. They do not invest in marketing, bombard you with newsletters full with things to purchase or use every possibility to make noise, or make money – instead they provide insights and useful information that help you to find your own truth.
3) They ask questions, give impulses and share own experiences.
They don’t have answers for you, because they know that you have to find the answers yourself inside of you
4) They don’t claim that their way is the only right way.
They encourage you to find out for yourself what you resonate with, and what is the right way for you.
5) They are there for you when you need to vent.
They take the time to answer your questions when you are struggling without charging you every time for it
6) They leave it up to you.
They don’t follow up on you to get you to book more sessions. They will help you into independence, not keeping you in co-dependence. They are interested in losing you as a client – that means that you are ready to move on on your own.
7) They are permanently in a place of unconditional love.
Unconditional love is the highest frequency of the universe. A true master does not use any lower frequencies. There is no anger, no provocation, no judgment, no fears, no buttons you could push for them, because they do not resonate with these frequencies. They can hold space for you, and will not be triggered by anything.
8) They don’t build up a following crowd.
Real leaders do not need that. A true leader is an inspiring role model, not someone who needs the masses to follow him or her to feed their own ego.
As long as we are in the middle of our awakening process, things can get very confusing and of course it is great if we feel we have found someone we can hold on to, and we can rely on. Just be aware, that also this is an imprinted pattern from the past, representing insecurities and mistrust in ourselves. Just keep in mind, that we will never find our answers externally. We carry them all inside of us.
“We will never find our answers externally. We carry them all inside of us.”
There is no other truth than our own. And it changes, as we move forward and raise our frequency, and expand our consciousness. It simplifies more and more, until the questions just stop and are replaced by a deep inner knowing.
So just be aware, despite the struggles, wobbles and insecurities, to not fall into another loop of co-dependency with a guru. Your story is like no other. You will have to walk your own path and have to find your own answers. As long as you are just blindly following someone else, you are still acting from a place of fear, not from self-love. Once this changed and you mastered self-love you will realize: The only person to follow is YOU.
The texts I share are always based on my own intuition, and/or on experiences of friends and my own. I do not claim what I share to be the ultimate truth. I encourage everyone to only take what resonates to find your own truth and wisdom. As this is universal wisdom, I do not claim any copyright. Please feel free to share this content as long as you keep its message complete so that the meaning does not get twisted. Thank you. Vera