Remark: This article contains a lot of information, which is valid for lightworkers who are not in a Twin Flame connection just the same. By no means this article intends to prefer Twin Flames over others on a soul mission here on earth. It is only written with the Twin Flame focus to help people going through this very challenging process and to create a better understanding what is happening. If you are in a twin flame dynamic, all this information might be overwhelming first. Let it settle in and feel into you and reread it. We have to learn and take in a lot in a short time to serve our mission, but also have to be patient with ourselves while going through this process.
You meet this person, look them into the eyes and are sucked in like by a tractor beam. The magnetic feeling is so intense – nothing you have ever experienced before. And you know: This is what I have been searching, what I have been waiting for my whole life. Now I am going to live happily ever after. I have found the person that makes me whole, the one that completes me. Right?
Wrong! The Twin Flame journey is not about romance in the first place, and we have to learn that the hard way. Especially in the beginning, when the just described bubble love phase ends abruptly. Our egos kick back in when we return into 3D reality and a painful push and pull becomes the new normal and in most cases ending in a painful separation. It does not really help to have the other half of our soul in our mind 24/7. We feel like going insane with all the fears and symptoms showing up, and we are asking ourselves: “What is it that I have gotten into here and why can I not let go of this?”
There have been many articles written about the twin flame phenomenon, the process and the stages we are going through, so no need to repeat this here. One thing that is not written much about although it is so important to understand, is the purpose and especially the energetic dynamics between twin flames and how they work. Understanding those two and learning the language of energy will help immensely to move forward in this journey.
Why are Twin Flames here?
We often mistake the twin flame connection as a romantic experience, because the feelings are so intense. It is not in the first place. Romance can be the icing on the cake at a later stage. But before we can have that, there is much work to do. The quicker we let go of this idea for now, the faster we move forward. The bubble love phase is our personal bait, the carrot in front of our nose pulling us forward. It is kind of like the Universe is saying: “Here is what you can have, get a little taste of paradise on earth. This is how living in the Fifth dimension feels like. But now: Back into 3D with you and get to work.” It seems to be the cruellest thing to us to lose what we wanted and love most. We are left alone, we feel abandoned, unwanted and completely confused and devastated. We start chasing the other person or running away. We are searching for answers, stumble upon the first articles on twin flames and learn that this is different from what we have experienced before. We are kicked into the spiritual world and we awaken on speed to a new reality. It is a roller coaster ride we have never experienced before and we just want it to end. All we want is to be with that person.
We just don’t know how, because our head is trying to find solutions on a 3D/ego/mind level within the learned behavioural patterns and templates. There is one thing guaranteed though: We will never find our answers from a 3D perspective. Everything we had learned and taken on from the 3D matrix programming through societal conventions, education, school, church, the news, the governments, marketing etc. does not apply to this experience. Even more than that: The twin flame journey forces us to drop all of this. Only then a reunion becomes possible. We will explore further why this is the case.
Twin Flames are leaders – in a spiritual sense, not in a status/ego sense. It is a leadership to be of service to humanity and planet earth and help people to find back to their true essence and self.
To understand what that really means and why we are asked to transform and change so much, we have to take a closer look into the true purposes of twin flames:
Purpose Number 1: Building and strengthening the New Earth Energetic Grid
Twin Flames go on a search when they are going through the painful experience of the push and pull and separation phase. This phase has not only the purpose to heal the individuals, it also serves to connect with other twins all over the world to exchange on experiences, helping and supporting each other in the process and in their missions. We are finding our tribe and are cooperating with each other. Twins and lightworkers are strategically positioned all over the planet to hold, build and fill important locations and portals to support the distribution of the light all over earth. Some will be positioned permanently in one spot, building new community models, new ways of autark living, new ways of education, new ways of business etc., while others are travellers – always ready to follow the next calling into the next region where light and love is needed.
Purpose Number 2: Supporting Ascension of the Planet and Humanity
Twin Flames have incarnated at this crucial time on earth to help the planet’s ascension. They are walking side by side with other lightworkers (star seeds and angelic beings) to help raising the planet’s and humanity’s frequency. Twins carry a very high frequency with them, which intensifies after the first encounter in the physical, when the energies that have been separated for so long, reconnect. It is an explosion of pure unconditional love. That is why it feels so unbelievably fantastic. This high vibe of energy is needed on the planet to raise the portion of light in relation to darkness. We have now reached an equal balance of darkness and light. The more the frequency rises on the planet, the faster we reach the tipping point when the light takes over the bigger portion and absorbs and transmutes the dark. Light workers (including twins) are here to help this transmutation by transforming low frequencies into high frequencies to free the planet from its 3D illusions and pain and, vice versa, to manifest these high vibrations onto the planet.
Purpose Number 3: Healing the Family Lineage and the Collective
Twin flames often incarnate into very dysfunctional families with a large misbalance of masculine and feminine energies. It can be either very abusive or very overprotected. Twin flames chose to experience living in a misbalance to understand how this feels like, as it is needed to help others to ascend later on. When twins awaken and understand their true purpose and start healing themselves, this has an effect on the whole family lineage. Twins change the energetic field and timeline for the whole genetic past and clear it so that the children incarnating through this lineage in the future will be born onto New Earth directly. There will be no karma left. The same counts for healing collective pain. When twins have healed enough themselves and have gotten used to the transmutation process of energy, which happens through our heart chakras, they will be more and more called in to support healing the collective. This will feel very uncomfortable in the beginning, and can feel like reliving the past, as the amount of low vibrations running through our system is much higher than what we had to handle so far with our own, our twins and our lineage.
Purpose Number 4: Teaching new Relationship and Family Templates
Twins are here to teach humanity how life on New Earth will be like, outside of the illusions we took for granted for such a long time. Life on New Earth is based on authenticity, freedom and self-love for the individual and oneness and compassion within the community. All of this becomes possible, when human Ego has been transformed into a free spirit and the hearts have been opened to unconditional love. This will lead to a complete absence of fear. On New Earth, feminine and masculine energies are in complete balance. The female as the creative part will set the right intentions from the heart and deliver the ideas, while the masculine part as the creator will implement. Twins are first to reach this balance and then support spreading this via ripple effect and the connection to twins all over the planet. Twins are the role model for new relationship and family templates, free from dependencies, duties, contracts, compromise. In a world without fear and insecurity, where everyone is valued for what they are, this will be the new normal.
Purpose Number 5: Teaching new Societal Templates
Closely related to the relationship and family templates are general societal templates that need to change to make life in the 5th dimension possible. Also these will be completely based on compassion, freedom and authenticity. Honesty will be self-evident. Today, when you ask people to not tell a lie for one day, most would not be able to do so, because our ego uses lies as a means of self-defence. This will change with the help of our lightwork. We will teach how we will live in harmony in the future. Communities that help each other out but honour and respect the individual aspects of each and everyone. The same counts for businesses. Imagine a world without ego and honouring our natural form of being in complete balance. We would not need fashion, fancy cars, fancy watches, make up, cosmetics, shampoo, deodorant etc. Test it yourself and walk down a shopping street and count the shops you would truly need on New Earth and which ones would drop away. Amazing, huh?
Now that we have learned what the purpose of twin flames is, we have to dive a bit further into the Twin Flame dynamics and process to understand what is happening for us and why this process is so challenging and painful in the beginning. And – it is very important to understand how these dynamics work from an energetic point of view so that we can use it to move forward quickly and come into a state of inner peace and balance.
Insight Number 1 – Your Twin is You
This is what many struggle with to understand when still in 3D thought and believe patterns. We slip into a victim role, we blame, we judge, we go into the “he said – she said” game and we are focused on the other half, only seeing their alleged fears and problems they need to solve. Well, scratch that. The sooner, the better. Of course, it is your choice. If you enjoy the 3D templates and the push and pull dynamics and the running and chasing game, then stick with it. There is only one guarantee: A permanent reunion with your twin will not be possible that way.
We have to understand, that our twin is us. We are one energy field in two bodies. So what we blame or judge him or her for, we blame ourselves for. They are our ultimate mirror and they give us exactly what we need for our own healing and growth. That is not always what our ego wants… So when you are blaming them for ignoring you, why are you ignoring yourself? When you complain about them not being honest about their feelings, where are you not honest yourself?
Insight Number 2 – It is all about You
There is no me or him/her. There is only us. And the faster we focus on ourselves, on our own issues, our own healing, the quicker we will raise the frequency for us, our twin and humanity and feel much more balanced and whole. Working with our inner child, our ego and learning the language of energy in order to transmute fear frequencies into love frequencies through gratitude and forgiveness are three key aspects. This process pushes us to become our true divine self and drop everything that is not authentic about us. It is triggering us until we have pealed off every fake layer and have found back to self-love. A state of being without any self-doubt, hurt, insecurities or other fears.
Our ego loves to step in here and say – why do I have to do all the work and the other part is not taking any effort? Well, read the next insight to get a clearer perspective.
Insight Number 3 – the Female is in the Lead
Once we have understood this, the second part to integrate into our awareness are the traits of the female and the male energies. The female energy is the creative energy. She creates with her intuition, her heart and sets the intention. She is preparing the energy field and is setting a certain frequency. Then, the male energy, the creator energy, can follow and manifest. It can never be the other way around. So if you are the more female part in the connection (carrying a bigger portion of female energy, which is independent from gender), you have to really take that in. If you are waiting for your twin to finally heal and get it – you will wait until the cows come home. This will never happen, as he will simply follow your energy. If your intention in the energetic field is waiting or acting out of fear – he will do the same. If you set the intention to move forward, change things, step into your mission, drop fears and parts that are not authentic about you, follow your true hearts desires, he will follow and do the same. And you do not have to talk to him or her in 3D about this at all. As you are connected energetically through your heart chakras, you will inspire him or her energetically. As the more female part, we change and transmute the fear/trauma pattern first and then the male can follow with his healing and then manifest reunion. The more female part sets the intention and creates the circumstances energetically to pave the way for manifestation. Always. Understand that the more male part needs you to do your job so that they can do theirs.
Insight Number 4 – Silence is Golden
A lot of confusion always comes up about the forced separation for twin flames. What we have to understand is, that this separation is guided by our soul and has its purpose. Our soul wants us to focus on ourselves and our own issues and healing. The transformation happens a lot quicker if we are not distracted by the presence of our other half. We have to understand, that our body is not ready to be able to stand these intense high frequencies we experienced in the bubble love phase for long, as we still carry a lot of old baggage and low fear frequencies. The friction between those two frequencies is too strong. Being with our twin would mean that we would simply burn out and our system would collapse. Therefore: Recognize the gift of silence for your ultimate good and use this time to focus on your own work instead of wasting energy into chasing and running away from your own lessons.
Insight Number 5– Our Inner Child is a Key Holder
When we started our journey on earth, it did not take long until we were completely caught up in the 3D game and programmed with false belief systems and templates. We took for granted what we learned. Everything was based on scarcity and competition. Being not good enough and having to be better, jump higher, perform more… that was our reality. We did not question that maybe what schools, churches, governments, the industries, etc. taught us was not so true after all.
So while growing up in our childhood, we were wounded and hurt because all of this programming was not in line with our true essence. Our fears and traumas that we experience today stem from that time. When we face a certain situation our system recalls the memory of the past and reacts with the same protective strategy we came up with as a child. That results in anger attacks, crying, manipulating etc. We end up in the same mess again and again until we realize that we have to heal our inner child to get rid of the pattern. And no one is better in triggering our inner child than our twin so that we regognize it and heal it. The inner child, when still in sabotage mode, is the nurturer of the ego, giving it the fear patterns it needs to keep us in fear. When we make our inner child our best friend and get it to trust us completely, the ego cannot get any energy and is forced to transform into a higher frequency. Fear patterns are reprogrammed into love patterns this way. If you want to learn more about inner child work, please go here.
Insight Number 6 – Acting out Emotions is good!
Another big misprogramming of the 3D Matrix is that acting out emotions is inappropriate. Crying, screaming, shaking, but also loud laughing or singing in public is simply indecorous in this ego-based society. What we have to understand is that acting out emotions is a good thing! It is a natural reflex that we have for a reason. It is like energetic puking. Children still use that reflex. If they have an energy in their system that does not belong there, they scream, they cry or shake to release it right away. And everything is cool again a couple of minutes later. Until we teach them that it is not okay to behave that way. So we keep all this toxic energy in our system and our emotional body gets an overload up to a point that it starts passing on dense energies into the physical body, which stores it. That manifests as muscle pains, inflammations first and can lead to serious illnesses such as cancer, heart attacks, strokes etc.
So instead of blaming ourselves when we feel like crying or screaming, we need to turn it around and learn that we have to be thankful for the possibility to release it. Compare it with a fish poisoning. Your stomach reacts with a natural reflex to throw up. If you fight that reflex and keep the food in your stomach, you can get very sick and even die. Do yourself a huge favour and instead of blaming yourself, enjoy emotional releases with a big “Thanks that I can let that go now for good”. That again transmutes the energy to a high frequency immediately.
Insight Number 7 – Start your Mission now
Don’t wait until your twin is ready to be with you to start your mission you came here for. You are supposed to reach a state of wholeness individually. The Universe requires transformation and change, not waiting until you are both ready. You are here as a lightworker with specific gifts and tasks. Explore your childhood and personality to find out what they are and who you truly are and start using your talents to help others. It does not have to be big, by helping one person you already cause a ripple effect. Your mission also gives you your purpose here on the planet and that is very fulfilling and helps you to move forward and come into a much more balanced state of being. Redirecting energies into something useful helps again to transmute energies to high frequencies of love and compassion. Move forward with your life as if reunion was not happening and you are happy and whole on your own, but know in your heart that your twin will join once all energy blockages between the two of you are cleared.
Insight Number 8– We are Transformers
When we have learned to release emotions with gratitude, we have had our first lesson in lightworking. Because that is how transmutation of low frequencies into high frequencies works. Through gratitude and forgiveness instead of blame and judgement, we raise the vibration quickly. This requires to take a different perspective and see the benefit in every situation: What does it teach me, what do I recognize about myself and for my own growth? Who did I meet that is important now to me that I would not have met?… When we take a 5D view on things, we recognize the perfection and purpose in all our experiences. By learning the language of energy and that energy can never dissolve but only transform, we recognize that we always have the steering wheel and we can choose if we want to go down the road of fear or drive up the highway of love.
Once we have learned this transmutation on a micro level, we will be kicked into collective healing, transmuting on a large scale for humanity. That can be completely overwhelming in the beginning and our heart chakra, where we transmute the energy through can hurt like hell until we get used to it. We have to understand, that we are part of a larger organism. Maybe now you can feel with liver cells and what they have to go through when they have to process all the toxic alcohol after heavy drinking and cleanse the physical body from it 🙂
Apart from that, we also transmute the other way around. All the high frequencies streaming in onto the planet need to be manifested on earth. We take those in and transmute them into a frequency that makes them suitable for humanity and the planet to take them in.
So, please be aware, when you feel low, desperate, lonely, sad etc. you are doing a huge job for the collective by transmuting these. Be grateful for the releases to make sure to raise the frequency. That is THE definition of lightwork. The battle between darkness and light is not an open war as we would imagine it to be. It is a battle that is taking place within each and every one of us and it is our choice what we support with our energy: Choose wisely, choose love.
Insight Number 9 – We had to go through 3D School
Often we ask ourselves – why do I have to go through all this pain? As already mentioned, many twins chose very dysfunctional families to incarnate into on purpose. Why? Besides the experience of the misbalance between masculine and feminine energies, an important reason for that is to fully understand the 3D programming and to experience ourselves how it feels and how it works. We had to understand that whole system in order to be able to hack it, infiltrate it and reprogram it with our light and love. Only that way, we are able to develop a compassion for those that are going through the same experience and to support them on their journey. We were and are preparing ourselves for our mission we came here for.
Insight Number 10 – Your old Life is supposed to be destroyed
Hm… sorry…. But is that really true? Why could someone then have such an impact on you? The twin flame journey is shaking you up for a purpose and challenges you to the deepest level. It forces you to find back to your divine essence, to become your most authentic self. This leads you into dropping everything that is not authentic about you and is not resonating with your inner truth. So everything you only did to please other people or fulfil others expectations will show up painfully until you let it go. Or you just experience huge losses, such as money, your home, people. The more you fight this process, the harder it will get. We are tested if we trust the universal flow, despite dire circumstances. We are asked to drop all dependencies, contracts, etc. to reach complete freedom. We are driven to let go of the programmed beliefs and templates we took on and leave the 3D Matrix for good. There is no place on New Earth for these old energies and we realize we do not need any of it when we are happy and whole. In short: We are guided to find self-love. As we all carry the Source energy within us, self-love is the closest we can get to God.
Insight Number 11 – Reunion is only possible on a very High Frequency Level
Once we have found self-love and feel completely connected to source and we have let go of all fake programming, fears, trauma, inauthentic behaviour etc., we have raised our frequency back to our natural frequency. Our original twin vibe. That is pure bliss and compassion. Pure Divine love. When we have reached that state, we have ascended to New Earth. We are now happy and whole by ourselves. We do not need anyone else to be happy, but we carry so much love for us and thus for God, that all we want to do is share it with others. We see through all the illusions. Duality dissolves and we see the good and Divine perfection in everything. We are completely free and have detached from the Matrix and have awakened to the real reality. Now, we are able to do the lightwork with ease and transmuting comes natural. When we release and cry it feels just as good as when we laugh, dance and sing. We have recognized what a great gift the twin flame connection is and are deeply grateful for everything it has brought to us on a silver plate. We manifest with ease, we have completely surrendered, we trust the universal flow and we have let go of the expectation that reunion has to happen in this lifetime, as time loses its meaning, too. And – that is exactly the moment when the door opens and – when you least expect it, your twin comes back to you, to be with you and to serve mankind together with you on your joint mission.
The texts I share are always based on downloads I receive and/or on experiences of clients and my own. I do not claim what I share to be the ultimate truth. I encourage everyone to only take what resonates to find your own truth and wisdom. As this is universal wisdom, I do not claim any copyright. Please feel free to share this content as long as you keep its message complete so that the meaning does not get twisted. Thank you. With lots of light and love, Vera Ingeborg
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